Real problems with Partner

[Booblet]

Hi everyone;
My Partner has left home again. I think also he is a Compulsive liar:
He used my Credit card to pay for a carpet bring fitted: He told me he had used his card..

When I looked at my bank statement it showed in black and white that over £80.00 had been took out via ""Cash back" from our local shop.

When I confronted him he denied and tried to say that I had used my card. I have not been in this certain shop for years due to a disagreement.

However, when I asked my partner to go this shop with me and check, it was obvious he had used my card, even the shop keeper said so too.

What was unbelievable was that he even denied it to the shop keeper, she was flabbergasted.

When we got home, he said that it couldnt cope with me calling him a liar when he wasn't and left 2 days ago.

He has used my card to draw out £33.00 too.

He will do anything for me what I asked and had been so, so supported in everyway, but will not be responsible for his own actions.

He had an horrendous childhood and was abused.
Please, please help.
Gill

He is not a partner. He is gaslighting you by trying to deflect responsibility and make you doubt yourself. How does he have your pin number anyway? Change it or he will continue to steal from you, to feed whatever spending habit he has.

Get your card stopped and order a new one so he can't keep lifting money. And then pack his things and leave them outside!!

This happened to a friend of mine. It's called financial abuse. He's stealing from you. Let him go. If he's moved out, he stays out.

He will do anything for me what I asked

Apart from telling you the truth and not stealing from you.

He is a liar, you know it and he knows it, do you really want to be with someone who lacks the basic respect for you not to lie to you?

Hi everyone,
I am having a really bad time with my partner.

2 days ago I checked my bank account and saw that over £80.00 had been drawn out of my account via "Cas back" from our local shop.

I do not go in this shop through a disagreement quite a while ago.

The money my partner got from my account was to pay for the carpet being fitted which he did pay.

The big problem is that when I accused my partner of this action he totally denied it and said it was me. I then asked him to go with me to this particular shop and confront the owner:

It was evident my partner had done this e xchange, my partner even lied to the shop keeper! even she was flabbergasted -

My partner then said that he cannot cope with me calling him a liar, which he is. He then gave me his keys and left our home.

He has done quite a lot of similar acts as above.

However, he will do anything for me at home, he is so supported and caring. I actually cannot fault him.

He did have an horrendous childhood and was abused in many ways. And I do know that at times children lie to stop the bullying and abuse and this can carry on into adult years.

He can not be responsible for most of his actions. He had never apologised until recently. He said to me at the time It felt good to apologise to me and he meant it.

I am so upset and confused.
Please help.

He isn't supportive and caring. He is a liar and a thief..
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@Booblet why have you posted your first post again in the middle of the thread? Have you bothered to read any of the replies you've had? Are you going to respond?

Having an abusive childhood doesn’t give you a get out jail free card to abuse others when you become an adult.

Sorry to say but by forgiving him you are allowing his bad behaviour to flourish and it will only get worse.

Has he taken any steps to get counselling or any kind of help so that he can over come his past and be a responsible adult?