Would you let her go.

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Dd turned 11 in July just left year 6. Where I live is quite rough. So I don't really want her playing on the area if I can help it .

She went to school a 20 Min bus ride away. There are a couple nice parks there. All her friends live close by as they all went to the same school. I'm not able to drop her of or pick her up. So would you let an 11 year old travel 20 mins to a better area to play with her friends in the park/around the estate etc. She would have to be home by 6pm.

She does not have a phone (not allowed ) that's a different story but I do have her friends under so can communicate via her .

I would get her an extremely basic phone, ideally one that only allows her to contact a select few numbers and given the circumstances around the last phone, only allow her to have it when she is out of the house.

To be absolutely honest though, given that back story I would be hesitant to let her go. Especially without some means of direct contact. School and back is one thing, you will know where she is, school would surely contact you if she were absent but outside of school hours, you really won't know that she is where she says she is. And given her history that is a risk I wouldn't be willing to take.

@romdowa

You can get phones that can only call programmed numbers, might be a better idea for her until she matures a bit and you can trust her.

Ah that sounds like an idea. Do you know what it's called ?

@DeadButDelicious

I would get her an extremely basic phone, ideally one that only allows her to contact a select few numbers and given the circumstances around the last phone, only allow her to have it when she is out of the house.

To be absolutely honest though, given that back story I would be hesitant to let her go. Especially without some means of direct contact. School and back is one thing, you will know where she is, school would surely contact you if she were absent but outside of school hours, you really won't know that she is where she says she is. And given her history that is a risk I wouldn't be willing to take.

I agree with everything you say. But the school bit they don't contact you to say the child is absent till late morning.

Thank you everyone I'm glad i added the back story now. Definitely going to look into the phones suggested.

There is one called the monqi smart phone , all functions can be controlled by an app on your phone. So numbers that they can call / text and apps that can be used.

Google tells me there is a SIM card called parentshield that may be the answer. Definitely worth a look.

parentshield.co.uk/features/

With that history I wouldn’t let her go and wouldn’t give her a phone either.

@SwimmingUnderwater

With that history I wouldn’t let her go and wouldn’t give her a phone either.

Shes not going. And I'm going to look at the phone people have suggested

you can have a 'family' phone that she has only when she's out and you keep it otherwise.

this is a really good idea, super basic phone but she's only allowed it when she's out alone as that would limit the time she could try to use it for nefarious purposes

Given the history of grooming I would say a firm no to being unsupervised at the park a bus ride away.

Also, if you are thinking of her needing a phone, Samsung phones have a kid's app which you can use to limit contacts and can't be removed without the adult putting in a password. I work with young people vulnerable to exploitation and have used this to keep them safe.