Nursery and potty training...

[youaresunshine]

How much help can i expect with this? We are potty training our 3.5 ds. He's got it at home now and is completely dry. I have to remind him but he is starting to take himself off and toilet independently. I'm really proud of him and he gets plenty of praise for doing so well.
It's not going as well at nursery. I always pack spare clothes. The first day (when ds was still having accidents) I packed extra. It wasn't enough and ds was sent home in borrowed clothes. I completely expected there to be some accidents and so this week, I packed 3 spare outfits and 5 pairs of pants. DS key worker said he had done better and they were really pleased. I got my sons stuff home (he was in borrowed clothes again) and emptied the bag. He'd gone through the 5 pairs of pants, plus the ones he came to Nursery in and was sent home with no underwear on, just the borrowed trousers. I was also left 2 sets of outfits that weren't his but they were in bags I guess for me to wash!
I have spoken to Nursery, explained our routines at home and that he is competely dry.
I was told they were potty training 4 other children and 2 of them were also completely dry at home but have loads of accidents at nursery...
Am I expecting too much? I feel like they aren't doing enough to support but I'm not sure what's appropriate. I absolutely understand that it's easier for me at home with ds as I have the time to remind him, that accidents do happen and the staff are busy.

Thanks @KSTIVES I will check that app out.

We had 2 weeks off where we got him dry at home and this is week 3 at nursery (9th session).
I completely understand the change in environment etc I also explained that they would have to send ds even if he said he didn't need to.
I just feel 6 pairs of pants and 4 outfits is excessive in one day. Especially as they told me that ds had taken himself off for a wee and a poo (which is great!) They tried to justify it that they give him loads of water at nursery but ds is very active at home too (we are always on the go!) And drinks loads of water and I still manage to get him to the toilet.

Ah. So this is his first week at nursery with no nappies ? It is very normal to have quite a few accidents. You may even find he is dry a lot at home and has accidents elsewhere/ dry for months and any slight change , you will still experience accidents. I agree 6 does seem like a lot.
I would message Tinto and see if anyone has had a similar experience.

Sorry, I wasn't very clear. It's been 5 weeks in total. 3 weeks at nursery (9 whole day sessions over that time).

Hmm. Not a great excuse that they are potty training others as well
I worked in a nursery and it was time consuming when they were training and all kids did different things but it's part of the job to support the family in this.

I took DS' potty in for several weeks and asked them to put it in their toilets. I told him to go to his potty when he needed to go and asked staff to remind him, especially after meals/snacks.

I'd find out: is he not getting there in time or is it that he's so absorbed in play he forgets he's in pants? Is he using the toilets? Nursery told me my DS wouldn't sit on the toilets at first and preferred to use his potty. Also ask him to check he knows where exactly he needs to go! If they are used to being taken to a separate area for nappies then he might be unsure of where toilets are?

It’s part of the learning curve. At nursery he’ll be playing and having fun with his friends. He’s got to learn not to leave it until the last minute and head to the loo. If you’re reminding him a lot at home he probably isn’t quite there really.