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It's a Drunk Teenager Thread. Advice and hopefully solidarity please?

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BuckyBarnesArm · 12/08/2021 23:10

My first! Dd delivered home from a party pissed as a fart. I've put her to bed in the recovery position with a basin and a glass of water nearby. I checked after 10 mins and she was lying on her back. Should I roll her on her side again?

I know this is all normal but there's a history of alcohol problems on both sides of our family and I need to not go ballistic about this Sad

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RunningFromInsanity · 12/08/2021 23:28

How old is she?

All you can do is let her sleep it off and expect a very grumpy hungover teen tomorrow!
Its a right of passage, I certainly did it several times as a teen and have no issues with alcohol.

I think it helped my relationship with alcohol to have parents who understood that getting drunk happens, and I didn’t have to hide it from them.

Feel free to tease her about it tomorrow though Wink

HemanOrSheRa · 12/08/2021 23:32

God. DS came home rip roaring drunk a few weeks ago. Him and his mates got on the wrong bus home so spent ages sat in a bus shelter, apparently unable to call an uber or tell us where they were, then I found him laid in the front porch. When I got him inside he was singing 'God Save The Queen' over and over at the top of his lungs Confused. He was a bit weak and feeble the next day.

Saidtoomuch · 12/08/2021 23:33

Keep her on her side. If she was mine I would be camping in her room, but I do tend to over worry.
Its not ideal but its a bit of the rite of passage, depending on age of course!
As above, make sure they always feel safe to come home to you, and lots of conversations about the results of alcohol abuse.

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BuckyBarnesArm · 12/08/2021 23:36

She's 16. Prime age for it I think. We're pretty relaxed about her drinking, she's got drunk once before this (that we know of!) I do have to work hard to be "relaxed" about it though 😬

She kept apologising and asked if I was angry. I said no, and I'm not. Just a bit worried.

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RunningFromInsanity · 12/08/2021 23:40

Nothing to be worried about. She’s home safe. She’s not throwing up. She was coherent enough to talk. She’s going to sleep until about midday tomorrow now.

SarahAndQuack · 12/08/2021 23:50

I would roll her onto her side again, if for no other reason that it'll do her no harm and set your mind at rest.

If you are still worried, I suppose you could try waking her and getting her to drink a pint of water. But this probably isn't realistic now.

I think when she wakes up and after she is done with the hangover you need to have a conversation with her about care for people who turn up very drunk. If someone is able to talk, you sit them in the bathroom and get them to drink (not gulp; just steadily drink) at least a pint of water. They may vomit, or they make keep it down. But it's good for teenagers to know to do this. Maybe talk to her about other practical things, like the recovery position, which you obviously know, but she may not.

Racingadmin · 13/08/2021 00:04

We use an old shower curtain to put the bucket on as their vomit aim is generally found to be off of the bucket and it saves the carpet

We tend to gently tease them in the morning , insist they change their sheets ( alcohol sweats are grim) and then get them to have a diarolyte once they can handle fluids to help with the hangover .

We don't go ballistic as would rather they came home when drunk where we can keep an eye on them, than go elsewhere for fear of a bollocking at home .

Dd is 19 and we've had it a few times , dd just the once at 17 and the hangover seems to have put her off of drink

FortunaMajor · 13/08/2021 00:51

Bin liner in the bucket too, makes for an easier clean up.

Leave her to sleep it off and wait until the afternoon for a chat. Main thing is she's home and safe.

Rite of passage though. Most of us did it. I have fond memories of coming home to a bucket and a pint of water by the bed.

stripedbananas · 13/08/2021 02:30

Just be glad she got home safely.

stripedbananas · 13/08/2021 02:31

DD was like this a few weeks ago only worse and she's younger. She has no desire to touch any more alcohol at the moment and I know she's been around it recently. I was just relieved she was safe and home

JoyOrbison · 13/08/2021 02:45

Can you wedge a couple of pillows behind her when she's on her side to stop her rolling on her back?

Coyoacan · 13/08/2021 03:16

No point in going ballistic but I would talk to her seriously about the increased risk of alcoholism for someone who is a close relative of alcoholics. I had that conversation with my dd and she hardly ever drinks, whereas her cousins, who are younger than her, are already alcoholics

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 13/08/2021 05:32

Chuckling and mild concern, although one of my brothers took her younger DS to Chessington and rang the culprit every hour: "How are you feeling? We're great here".

DrDresaid · 14/08/2021 02:23

I realise it's late but I'm also joining as I'm currently camped out outside DC's bedroom after mates brought them home an hour ago,
Lost their phone and now snoring like a warthog.
Wouldn't mind but they've been out celebrating results that were hardly worth celebrating HmmGrin
Just having a cuppa and waiting for the vomit, it's gonna be a long night

Lesspearmorebutternutsquash · 14/08/2021 03:01

Definitely a rite of passage! My parents went absolutely APESHIT and as a parent myself now (albeit not to teens yet!) I just can’t imagine getting that worked up about something that most teens will do.

Rifalo · 14/08/2021 03:09

Definitely a rite of passage. I remember some spectacular hangovers at that age. Grim looking back.

NameChange74567 · 14/08/2021 03:25

Keep checking on her through the night and put her back on her side.of she moves fro that position.

CheddarToldMeTo · 14/08/2021 03:47

Bleurgh I remember this feeling! Went to my aunts 60th birthday party straight after work (I was only 16). Parents let me have a glass of rose 'you can have this and nothing else' and couldn't work out why I was soooo smashed by the end of the night that I ended up crawling up the stairs and being sick. Little did they know that all my favourite family members had basically said the same as my parents, and one glass turned to quite a few...

AuditAngel · 14/08/2021 09:58

My teens also went out last night (17 and 14) while on holiday. Resort we know very well. Allowed them a cocktail with dinner (weren’t sure the restaurant would serve them, but 5 kids aged 10, 14, 15, 17 and 19 on one table and 4 adults at next table)

We then tried to go to another bar, but DH, his DB and I are past the age of being prepared to queue for a bar. Teens put their name down on the waiting list and we took them all to another bar. They (plus another friend, about 16) make much use of my husband’s tab, then at 12.30 departed back to the bar with a waiting list. DD2 (10) got taken for a fancy ice cream to soften the blow of being dumped.

DH stayed up to check on the getting home ok (he’s much better at late nights) which they did at 5. Apparently DS (17) fell asleep at one point and DD and his cousins drew on him (I haven’t yet seen him/the art work) .

I asked DD2 to tidy their shared holiday bedroom so all clothes were in cases under beds in case of vomit (tiled floors ) and left them to it.

We have headache tablets, and if they feel really queasy, we also have DD1’s travel sickness pills.

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