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Should I go to this wedding?

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ExpressDelivery · 12/08/2021 00:08

I'm part of a fairly wide friendship group through a sporting interest. There's an established core, if you like, but it's been quite fluid over the years as people come and go from the club.

One of the couples on the fringes of the group are getting married. They've invited most of the group, but not me. Which is fine, I'm not close to either of them, although I suppose I was a bit put outnintially to be the only one of the group not invited.

However, one of the other members of the group has invited me as his plus one. He's recently split with a long term partner, I'm recently widowed, so I guess it's convienient. He hasn't done it to "rectify" the lack of invitation, he was talking to me about the wedding assuming I was going and when he realised I wasn't, saw a solution to his problem.

Usually my heart would sink at the thought of being a plus one, you don't know anyone, but all my friends will be at this wedding. OTOH, if they wanted me there, they'd have invited me.

Would it be weird to go? I'm not even sure I want to TBH, but friend is good company and an excellent dancer - when do grown ups get a chance to dance except at weddings?!

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Awrite · 12/08/2021 00:12

Try to realise if you actually want to go or not. If so, go. If not, don't.

Hope I don't sound flippant, I don't mean to.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 12/08/2021 00:22

I'm very sorry to hear that you are recently bereaved.

I wonder if that might have influenced the lack of invitation for you, the couple might have thought that celebrating a marriage might be difficult for you.

Based on good company and an excellent dancer, I think you should go.

If you want to and have a "wow" outfit

ExpressDelivery · 12/08/2021 00:30

@BewitchedBotheredandBewildered

I'm very sorry to hear that you are recently bereaved.

I wonder if that might have influenced the lack of invitation for you, the couple might have thought that celebrating a marriage might be difficult for you.

Based on good company and an excellent dancer, I think you should go.

If you want to and have a "wow" outfit

No, it's a rearranged wedding, the invitations went out before Covid, before we even knew DH was ill.

I wasn't the only person from the group not invited, that was an exaggeration, but I (we, DH and I, when the invitations went out) was the only person from my main group of friends iyswim. Which makes perfect sense, it's not the friendship group's wedding.

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thefirstmrsrochester · 12/08/2021 00:38

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers

Who knows why you were not on the invite list but someone whose company you enjoy and who is a good dancer has asked you to accompany them.....I’d go and have the best time.

YellowSunshineSky · 12/08/2021 01:41

Not weird if you go, I suspect they'd love to have you.

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