Need to chat about this.

[Summertime1899]

Sorry if this is covid related. Came out of a Facebook group which was a subgroup of a larger group I’m in. I’m CV so don’t feel comfy meeting the group just now. I put this on when they were making arrangements and my post was just skipped past and no one commented. I’ve since come out of the sub group who broke restrictions by travelling, mixing and staying away quite a distance during the lockdown.
I felt hurt that they didn’t acknowledge my post and I reckon now one of them who is a bit of a ring leader has formed a separate group for them all.
Feeling really upset but I guess I’ll get flamed on here for being in the wrong for coming out of the subgroup. I just said I was trying to limit my social media time a bit so reducing no of groups.I would be sad if this is the case as there’s folk in the bigger group who I really like...

Does come out of a group mean you leave it?

If a new group was made for those who are freer to meet up and whatnot you wouldn't want to be in it, have your nose rubbed in the fact that you are CV and need to still be cautious?

Sometimes we misread intent in text, in-person interactions where you can read body language, deduce from tone, are much better.

I hope you're okay.

How many people were in the original group?

Why would you want to be part of a sub group of people who feel comfortable meeting up, when you don't?

Thanks for the responses.
WorraLiberty- I know- you are right, I did think of that. There are about 8 in the original group.

You don't know there's another group though. You sound very down about it all. Are you vaccinated?

This is true- I don’t know if there’s another group.
I can’t get vaccine due to allergies- I’ve not told the group that as it will prob sound like an excuse or something. Anyone just quite hurt they didn’t acknowledge my post re being CV that time and the other time I mentioned it too.
It’s friends I’ve only known for 3 years so I’m thinking I should just nurture my long term friendships instead online and obviously in real life when I can meet them...

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But if you came out of the group, surely they wouldn't need to make another one?

Are you sure your post was visible? I have had a problem making my posts visible recently

You see it on here all the time that "All the vulnerable are vaccinated" so it may well be that they think you are and being CV isn't a thing anymore. I'm CEV and immunosuppressed so the vaccine hasn't had much effect on me and it's felt quite lonely watching everyone crack on.
I do think you need to focus on friends you know well who will be careful around you.

Yes, my post was read by them

Yes, going forward I’m going to concentrate on folk I’ve known for longer. They just wouldn’t act in the same way....

Sorry if I'm being thick, but I don't really understand the question here.

You posted you didn't feel comfortable meeting up, and then you left the FB group... so now what? You're upset nobody has got in touch with you? Or something else?

Tbh it sounds a little bit dramatic. I'm in various FB groups but I certainly don't comment on all posts, and probably wouldn't notice if people left the group. I suspect you're overthinking this, and nobody is annoyed with you, they just don't know there's an issue here?

fellrunner... I was just a bit hurt that they skipped past my posts re not being able to meet and explaining why re being CV and just went on to talk about something else. But thinking about it, because of the way they broke the restrictions a while back, I’m maybe not best suited as friends with them and vice versa.
I would be sad to lose contact with a couple of the wider group, but I guess I can keep in contact with them individually.
Sorry, just thinking this through myself properly and was feeling down about it today.

I think two things are going on here:

1 they just read your post in a "oh I can't do Thursday night, catch you next time kind of way" and carried on their planning.

2 a lot of people are clinically vulnerable - everyone with asthma, diabetes, over a certain age and BMI, a huge list. So they probably didn't think it needed a comment as it's a pretty normal thing and indeed some of them may be CV as well. Not the same way as saying "I've been diagnosed with X condition" at all.

MindyStClaire- thanks, yes I didn’t want to think bad of them and I’m still thinking it through but it was said in a way that shows my condition is worse if you see what I mean.
The more I think about it, coupled with other things including the restriction breaking, I’m going to go with my plan nurturing old/ more longterm friendships.
I just felt so sad about it today and had to get it down on paper as it were