If you got the opportunity to go to a great show this weekend?

[ExpressDelivery]

Do you have anyone you could ask to go with you?

I've seen that the last few nights of a comedian I'd like to see have been reduced to a very affordable price.

In the past I'd have just booked and told DH we were going But he died a few months ago.

I'm trying to carry on and keep myself busy, I've had and accepted lots of invitations, but they're generally arranged well in advance and done as a group.

I can't think of any one person I could ask to come with me. My married friends wouldn't go at a weekend without their husbands, except for special things organised in advance.

I have a couple of single male friends/acquaintances who might be available and interested in the show, but I'm very wary of giving them the wrong message.

My best friend is a married man. I deliberately don't arrange intimate things for us to do out of respect for his wife. I may be overthinking, but I expect my new "single" status has crossed her mind as a possible problem.

I could organise it as a group trip, but doubt that would happen for this weekend.

There's no one to do something on the spur of the moment with.

I'm tempted to go on my own. I'm not sure if that's liberating or will make me unbearably sad.

It’s my birthday this weekend and I’m going to a show by myself
Go along on your own OP and have a great time. It can be hard the first few times going solo to things when you’re not used to but the more practice you have the more comfortable you’ll get. for you and your late DH

I'd just go alone

V sorry you lost your DH.

Have been to several shows etc alone, it’s fine!

But if you don’t want to do that wouldn’t rule out friends, would just try some of your married female friends first and work down a list!

I would come with you, I love a show and dh would be fine with me going out and him with the school. We often go out independently

I'm very sorry to hear about your husband x

I'm single, do loads on my own, but wouldn't particularly want to see a comedian by myself, but it depends a bit on whether it's tables or standard theatre seating.

Do you not get in with your best friends wife? Couldn't you all go?

I know what you mean about couples at the weekend, but you could try asking your other friends if they want to go,

It's not easy being single and not automatically having someone to do things like this with x

Are you on Facebook or in a group WhatsApp or similar?

I think in your situation I'd put out a group message to say that you're interested in going and does anyone want to join you. That way you're not putting anyone on the spot or giving out messages that might be misinterpreted.

"My married friends wouldn't go at a weekend without their husbands, except for special things organised in advance."

"My best friend is a married man. I deliberately don't arrange intimate things for us to do out of respect for his wife."

Could you ask both members of a couple, rather than the one you are closest to?

@SkepticalCat

Are you on Facebook or in a group WhatsApp or similar?

I think in your situation I'd put out a group message to say that you're interested in going and does anyone want to join you. That way you're not putting anyone on the spot or giving out messages that might be misinterpreted.

I did think about that, I'm in several groups, but on the perifory of the one with the most likely candidates. It seems a bit desperate and I'd be gutted if no one says yes! I'm already a bit fragile about the way friendships have changed since DH died.

@SkepticalCat

"My married friends wouldn't go at a weekend without their husbands, except for special things organised in advance."

"My best friend is a married man. I deliberately don't arrange intimate things for us to do out of respect for his wife."

Could you ask both members of a couple, rather than the one you are closest to?

I could, but I don't want to. Which is my issue entirely, I appreciate. It's just too hard.

@ExpressDelivery I understand how your friendships have changed since your husband died. I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry OP. If you can post on your social media or a chat group that you have 2 tickets and if anyone wants to come to contact you? That way you won't have to deal with direct embarrassment if no one replies?

Hope you find someone! I'm in the same boat but single, have tickets to a concert in October that I bought when I was with my ex. Also saw an advert for a comedian I'd love to see but again, don't want to go alone.

It's tough

So sorry for your loss.

I often go to shows, the cinema, restaurants on my own and it’s no problem at all. I quite like it to be honest.