I’ve been friends with this woman (let’s call her Sharon) for a few years now.
I’ve always found her to be a bit of a user but it’s really becoming more obvious now to me.
She only recently passed her driving test and I used to give her lifts to places on plenty of occasions, I never once asked her for petrol money and she never once offered (I’m not saying she would need to offer every journey, but maybe if she offered now and again, that said, I probably wouldn’t take it but that’s not the point)
Anytime I’ve suggested going out for coffee it’s always “oh I’ve no money, I’m so broke” and she said once “oh it’s your treat” when she’s never actually treated me to coffee!! - I’ve actually offered to pay before and she’s said “oh I couldn’t do that, I’d feel bad”
There’s always a sob story about how she has no money.
She’s made me pay for things before in the shop, she has paid me back at times, but recently I bought her something, she said she’d pay me back and she never did.
Ever since she started driving I’ve actually noticed she bothers with me less. This is nothing new, but it was always me texting her and asking her to go out, half the time she’d say no.
Recently I’ve Noticed she doesn’t really reply to my text messages anymore, she reads them but doesn’t reply as much.
When she asked me to pick her up from somewhere recently, I said yes but I’ll not be there at her exact time as I was busy, and she said “oh fuck that’s a bit late”
Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy her friendship, I’ve had difficulties these last few months and she has listened to me and allowed me to talk about it but this is annoying me.
Should I confront her and give her a chance to explain? I’m a nice person but I’m not going to allow her to use me.
Part of me thought about just cutting her off but I don’t think that is fair without giving her a chance to improve, that will tell me if she’s a genuine friend or not.
What do you all think I should do?