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How to rectify social ineptitude

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Notalotofinspiration · 10/08/2021 21:37

Before I start, I know I've been shit and I regret it but not sure how best to rectify.

Background. I had a baby last summer. Obviously new babies are always hard but on top of that baby's dad is very ill and baby does not sleep, even now (contact naps only, 2 hourly wake ups all night, urgh) so I'm constantly knackered and have no time to do anything. Anyhow those are my excuses.

A few months ago a woman posted in our local FB group saying that she didn't know anyone in the area and did anyone want to meet for a walk. Baby and I went along and she was very nice. She only lives round the corner and is definitely sort of person I'd be friends with. She's early 40s and child free but seemed interested in my baby chat and I very much enjoyed talking to her about her non baby focused life. A couple of weeks later when the pubs were open we went for a drink, again instigated by her. We spoke about having lunch at a different local pub but after messaging to say lovely to see you etc she didn't message again (fair enough as she'd made all the effort up until then) and I never got back to her either due to the above.

Anyhow, now baby is in nursery a couple of days a week and I have a few weeks before I'm.back at work. Would it make it better or worse if I contact her now, apologise and ask if she wants to meet?

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Notalotofinspiration · 10/08/2021 21:41

Oh god this was supposed to be in chat!

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sleepyshiftworker · 10/08/2021 21:45

Just message her.

Would have taken less time than to write out your OP.

Life is busy. Things happen. Don't dwell.

SisterMonicaJoansHabit · 10/08/2021 21:51

Just message her. You don't have to give a lengthy explanation, if you don't want. Or you can just say you're not the most natural at social situations but with your baby in nursery now, if she'd like to meet up, you might have your brain firing on more cylinders :) one more try can't hurt

Indiaplain · 10/08/2021 21:57

Yes - definitely message her. She probably doesnt want to come across as needy, but meeting people you click with is rare, so go for it.

Notalotofinspiration · 11/08/2021 09:23

Thanks all - will do!

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