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Possessive over friend

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Jellywelly1 · 10/08/2021 09:48

My 6 year old has been friends with a little boy the same age from a year old. They are now at school together. Best buds. Sit together. Always partnered up. The problem is that she struggles with him forming friendships away from her or playing games. He gravitates towards boys abit now and gets along with other girls too. The teacher said my daughter also plays with other friendship groups sometimes.

A new girl started in the class. My daughter seemed to be playing with her all the time. I was hopefull she was starting to find other friends. But that child's having a party this week. My friends son has been invited and my daughter hasn't. This is the second party this month she has not been invited to and he has.

I put her in summer school to help her confidence. My friend just by chance got a summer job there and her sons now there on the days my daughter goes. Yesterday my friend called and said she had to separate them. My daughter got possessive and was pulling him away from his new friends etc. Someone higher up had to deal with her.

I've already paid for some of her sessions but she has a couple more booked in. I am curious about contacting the club owner to see if I can pull her out or would I still need to pay. Would this be something to consider? I just feel abit embarrassed and don't feel she's gaining from going.

I just don't know what to do. I've tried so hard to explain.

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LagneyandCasey · 10/08/2021 10:52

Op, this type if issue is very common throughout childhood and into the teenage years. You've no need to feel embarrassed. Your dd is only 6 and she obviously loves her friend and wants to be with him. Keep talking to her about friendships and keep her at the summer club if she enjoys it. Tbh your 'friend' shouldn't be talking to you about your dd outside of the setting. Is she her keyworker? I would speak to the supervisor and tell her what your friend told you. Maybe they can put the children into little groups for certain activities so she gets to know other children.

As for the party invites - that's just how it goes. It probably hurts you more than it hurts her. Take her out to do something fun while the parties are on if it makes you feel better.

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