How many friends do you have?

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I only have one close friend I met over 10 years ago from uni, but I had a baby and although I still love her I feel like she doesn't understand a lot of the things I'm going through (feel I should add we talk a lot about other things, I do value her. But I want to talk about my daughter more as she's my life at the moment, I don't even have work). Like she tries her best to be supportive but she can't relate. I've been thinking how it would actually be so wonderful to have another mother to talk to, I worry so much.

There are a few women I know who have also had babies recently, girls I know from school (I'm now 30 so school is a long time ago)

Do you think I would be a total creep to message them and try to be friends?

The truth is I'm 6 months in and I've found it really really hard. Particularly with breastfeeding, I have nobody in my life that understands breastfeeding and you need to feed babe more regularly etc and I just feel like it would be nice to have someone who understood what it is like. Not just that though, all of it. The extreme lack of sleep. The feelings of joy mixed with despair.

I think I'd be really hurt if they rejected me so I've been too frightened to do anything. I don't have a lot of self confidence at the moment.

What do you think?

I met a friend at ante natal and also at a baby group. But I lived hundreds of miles away from where I grew up. I hated the first baby group I went to but made a mate at the second. When the dc were toddlers she suddenly left her DH and up sticks and disappeared. She had contacted her old University BF and got together with him, he left his wife. The kids are all 20 now and I’m still in touch with the ante natal group Mum.

Try local baby groups.

Yes try local groups nd see if there is anyone you click with. Also, if you have a health visitor you get on with ask if she can put you in touch with other mums with babies around the same age (my hv did this and we are still friends 11 years later!)

@Auntienumber8

Wow! Don't know what to say but what a story

Yes I agree, baby groups are ideal for this. I remember the first time I asked another mum for her phone number so we could meet up outside the group, I was as nervous as if I was asking a man out on a date! But remember there will be lots of other mums in the same situation as you, feeling lonely and open to new friends.

@Apeirogon

Yes I agree, baby groups are ideal for this. I remember the first time I asked another mum for her phone number so we could meet up outside the group, I was as nervous as if I was asking a man out on a date! But remember there will be lots of other mums in the same situation as you, feeling lonely and open to new friends.

Yes I feel like it's like asking someone on a date! Funny isn't it!

Ok I guess I need to get out there more and be brave. Thank you ladies.