It was her birthday yesterday. We went by sunday to drop off cards and a couple of token gifts, we dropped at door step as she currently has BIL kids - one of whom came down with a temperature and sore throat and they were awaiting PCR results at the time (more on that in a bit).
Dh called her yesterday afternoon to say happy birthday, see how her day was.
FIL had forgotten yet again. 45 years of marriage, he’s remembered her birthday a handful of times. Despite Dh jogging him a few days beforehand each year.
BIL and SIL, who are on honeymoon didn’t call, haven’t bothered to even call to speak to their kids or enquire about the PCR test for their youngest or even to ask how she’s feeling.
MIL is lovely, very stoic and said it is what it is, she’s 69, not 5, so she will get over it.
Backstory is, BIL and SIL got married last week (there is a history between dh and his brother, we didn’t go), and immediately went on honeymoon for two weeks leaving their 3 children with PIL. FIL is a bit of a selfish knob so it’s MIL who picks up the slack. Not a surprise to anyone as they have been taking the piss out of MIL for years with childcare etc, last minute weekends if they decide to go out on a whim.
She’s knackered, pissed off, really upset that BIL and SIL haven’t even asked about the child she had to text to tell them was ill and needed testing because they didn’t answer their phones (test came back negative, no one else has any symptoms and the child is better).
The most she got from sister in law was a text saying “if she is positive, you’ll have to let everyone at the wedding and the venue know
I can send you a list” 
Cheeky sod.
No card from FIL or BIL.
I want to do something nice for her today. She’s going to leave FIL to fend for himself with the kids for a change and come here alone for a couple of hours. Dh is going to take the afternoon off and cook her a lovely lunch, I guess there’s not much else we can do is there?
I just feel really bad for her.