Can anyone recommend me a parenting book?

[AndTheReasonIsYou]

I feel like I’m losing control of the dressing room 😞

Kids are 6 and 4. 4’s behaviour is deteriorating and I don’t know why or what to do. She doesn’t seem to give a shit about what I say or any sort of consequences. I love her to the ends of the earth but I feel like all I do is moan or shout at her and I can’t bear it. She’s absolutely running the show here.

Example - she has started deliberately peeing on the floor. I have always been super understanding and kind about accidents but these are not accidents. It’s deliberate. I’ve asked her why she does it and she just shrugs. I’ve told her off and she still does it. I think she thinks it’s funny.

I believe that behaviour is communication but I don’t know what she’s trying to communicate. She’s an adored child.

I’m in so far over my head. I’m failing her.

Bump.

Tonight she told me over and over again that she hated me. She hates her family. She’s picking this up from a girl at nursery I think (she told that’s what this girl says) so I’m trying not to take it personally but I feel like it’s all going to shit.

I'd suggest
How to talk so kids will listen
And
The book you wish your parents had read

Second How to talk so kids will listen

playful parenting is excellent & might help the feeling like you're always moaning/shouting.

How to talk so kids will listen

I third it. Frankly, it's the only book you'll need. I also had 1, 2, 3, Magic but How to talk was it.

Yep I loved How To Talk - I have the 'so little kids will listen' one. Would recommend it all day long. Made so much sense to me!

All the above books.

Good lord deliberately peeing on the floor, that is unusual. You poor thing. I'd be private messaging Philippa Perry till she relented and gave me an idea of what to do.

I would probably shout a bit quite loudly and smack her bottom but you can't really say that on MN, but hey ho, I've said it now. Doesn't mean I would do that but

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