Does this happen in real life? (Romance related)

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You see in the films, he couple who are meant to be together but never quite get it together. Their paths cross numerous times over the months/years and something always happens to keep them apart. Eventually, the starts all align and they live happily ever after.

Has anybody lived this?

But it only happens that way in films because it’s a rom com starring Big Star X and Big Star Y. In actual life it’s more down to pure chance. I only met DH because I was the only one of a student society not to get the message that an event had moved buildings, and he came by to check for lost people. I can think of numerous equally chance-related occasions where I didn’t get together with someone because we missed one another at a nightclub, or a message didn’t get passed on (pre mobiles). I have two longterm male friends I’d probably have asked out had we ever been single at the same time.

Sort of! Our paths crossed but never any romance. Good pals and lots of life crossover.

Saw each other after 15 years (both moved away) and I just knew we'd be together forever, ridiculous I know but true!

Funny how life works out 🤷‍♀️ has been said our back story would make a decent-ish rom-com. It's not finished yet though, so I'll need him to up his game for the big movie finale

Yes. It’s happened to me. We’ve now been together nearly 15 years after knowing each other for over 30. Jury still out on the happy ever after. We have the same relationship problems as anyone else in a long term relationship. It’s still hard work. The problem is the movies and books stop at the beginning of the romantic relationship and don’t follow it all the way through!

Yes happened to us. We've known each other since we were 15. Went our separate ways, crossed paths on a regular basis stayed friends, finally got it together in our 30s and have been happily married for over 20 years.

The time was never right and then suddenly it was.

Hoping so!

Yes, it does. A lovely friend of mine met her husband this way; sadly, he died recently, but they had a beautiful relationship.

On a more pragmatic note, I also know a couple where one person was always keen on the other, and she kept hoping it'd work out, but either she'd be in a relationship or he would. They got together in the end and they are very happy - it's not his first love but I think it is hers, and I think she just knew earlier on that there was 'something' there.

Finally I know people who've married later in life after their first spouse died. In one case, the couples were all very close through their lives, and I think it was a classic case of friendship turning into love, and it really did have a lot to do with them both being bereaved at about the same time, and both genuinely mourning for each other's loss as the whole foursome had been such close friends. In the other case, the spouses who died didn't really know each other, but I definitely got the impression it was a 'fuck it, I liked you when we were 20, now we're 50, let's not waste time' kind of reaction, and again, seems very healthy to me.

I think these stories about romances that finally come good are out there because, basically, we all like to make connections and it's lovely to get a second chance.

I'm sat here hoping just that!

I'll have to wait though. My star crossed lover forgave his DW for the sake of the children (if we had had a chat 3 months earlier things may have worked out before in a classic story of wrong time)

Who knows. Our paths have been intertwined for so long - if they cross that way then no way would I doubt it for a second.
I'm not pining in the meantime - we'll maybe just a tiny bit but I'm like the Jennifer Aniston character - always sweet and kind.

I don’t know. I’m a pretty cynical/non romantic person so I think the one you’re meant to be with is the one you’re with. I always think if someone was so perfect for you you’d have ended up together.

I’m not much of a star-gazer though, I tend to be content in what I have. I think people who have these lifelong romantic notions are more in love with romance than anything else.

I had a 6 week fling with a colleague.
We both had partners.
He left our workplace and we made no plans to see each other again. No contact what so ever.

6 months later I was stuck in traffic and scrolling my phone. Found his number & texted him a quick 'how are you?'

He invited me to a BBQ that afternoon.

He was now single. We rekindled things I broke up with boyfriend.

22 years later and 15yrs married still happily together.
If it wasn't for the traffic on the M25!

One of my best friends, we grew up together and he was my first boyfriend. We have the world's worst timing, he moved away for uni (year older than me and I told him to go), and since then there has always been something there.

But either I'm seeing someone, or he's seeing someone, or I moved overseas.

I've always wondered if the stars aligned whether we actually should be together. We've had a few drunken conversations on this lol. But once again now I've returned from overseas and am single, he's in a very committed relationship. And I actually really like his girlfriend.

Regardless, even if the stars had aligned I don't know if I would be willing to risk the friendship. Despite what all our friends and family say.

I had a weird experience once. I went for a drink after work with a friend and he asked me if I had a 'one that got away'. I'd been single for a while and kept thinking about my uni boyfriend. He was handsome, brilliant, and really loved me. I couldn't remember why I'd split with him. That night I got on the tube thinking about him and overshot my stop by several stations. I turned round, got on a train and someone called my name. It was The One Who Got Away. I was stunned. He was in his city slicker clothes and I was in my scruffy broke artist clothes and I immediately felt a bit embarrassed. He asked if I'd like to go for a drink, was I seeing anyone and when I said no, he started cross-examining me, on the train: I don't believe you. You must have a boyfriend. Are you prepared to cheat on your boyfriend to go for a drink with me? Etc.

By the time it was my stop I was glad to get away and remember what a jealous man he'd been, how hard work he was. Probably a huge co-incidence that it happened that night.