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Extremely annoyed at beautician

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MaybeAMoaner · 09/08/2021 19:56

I had a beauty treatment on Saturday.
Before hand I had had to fill in a form and I ticked that I did not want photos taken and shared on social media.
She saw that I ticked it and she questioned it. I confirmed I didn’t want my photo taken or put on social media.
Well, she’s completely ignored me and she’s done it. I only found out as a friend saw it and tagged me. I am raging.
I absolutely hate my photo being taken, I look horrible in photos (well, real life too!) and for the procedure I had to have no make up so I look even worse.
Now everyone I know has seen me looking my worst. I feel so sad and down about it. I know I clearly have issues and low self esteem which I need to deal with but the beautician knew specifically it to do it and the form I signed was clear.
It’s made me depressed :-(

I just wanted to vent really. Has anyone had anything similar happen?
It feels like ive walked through town with no clothes on.

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MaybeAMoaner · 09/08/2021 19:57

I should add- the photos were taken when my eyes were closed. I didn’t know they had even been taken.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 09/08/2021 20:06

I’m not surprised you’re annoyed.
You’ve every right to be. I hate getting my picture taken, too

She had no right whatsoever to do that. She also had less right to question your refusal. How dare she. . She’s a fool onto herself though as she’s obviously lost a client now.
I don’t know the legalities though or if any privacy laws have been broken so I won’t advise on that. Hopefully someone more cleverer will be along soon.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/08/2021 20:08

Make her take it down! I know people have already seen it now but don’t just leave it and vent.

Who is the everyone who’s seen it? Were you tagged on Facebook or something?

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MaybeAMoaner · 09/08/2021 20:11

Yes Facebook. And as I rarely look at Facebook it had been up 8 hours before I realised. I’ve removed the tag but I’d say the majority of my friends list have seen it. I’m embarrassed.

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BedknobsNoBroomsticks · 09/08/2021 20:12

What was the point in getting you to tcik the box if she was just going to do it anyway. Definitely tell her to take it down.

There are all sorts of reasons why people don't want their face everywhere and she had no right to question you never mind ignore you

PatchworkElmer · 09/08/2021 20:12

Tell her to take it down immediately

MeridasMum · 09/08/2021 20:13

I think you can report this to Facebook as the poster doesn't have permission to use the image

Brefugee · 09/08/2021 20:19

Report the post to facebook and tell her you've done so.
And tell her that if she does it again you'll be all over her business SM telling people what she did

MrsSiba · 09/08/2021 20:19

This is really serious. Not saying your reason isn't serious OP but there can be legal reasons why people's pictures are kept out of social media, eg those fleeing domestic violence.

I would plaster all over her account that she has deliberately breached your agreement, how furious you are and you will take this further if the post isn't removed and a picnic apology made to you.

What an arrogant and stupid woman she (beautician) is 😡😡

MrsSiba · 09/08/2021 20:20

*public

tinkywinkyshandbag · 09/08/2021 20:20

That's awful I'd be complaining and never going there again, total breach of trust and privacy. I'm guessing the vast majority of your FB friends will either not have seen it or will not care so try not to worry about that.

Galassia · 09/08/2021 20:21

Leave a review on her page stating her breach of confidentiality

wombatspoopcubes · 09/08/2021 20:27

I would plaster all over her account that she has deliberately breached your agreement, how furious you are and you will take this further if the post isn't removed and a picnic apology made to you.

Please DO NOT do this. That way nobody on facebook will ever forget it. If you don't seek publicity and attention about it everyone will forget about the picture by next week.

Do contact her personally about it though, it's not okay what she did. Also, don't use her again.

CheddarToldMeTo · 09/08/2021 20:28

Hmmm, what happens if there is another legitimate reason for not having your photo taken. e.g witness protection or trying to get away from an abusive partner etc?! I'm pretty sure you can take this further as a breach of your privacy

GYNisaliarWTF · 09/08/2021 20:28

Hi @MaybeAMoaner
I’m a beautician, I have these forms.

I’d advise you to send a strongly worded email advising her of the breach of privacy and how it’s affected you, posting a photo of someone without their permission because it’s unflattering isn’t actually defamation, so from a legal standpoint there are no grounds unfortunately.

However, this was really unprofessional of her and she should be held to account for how she’s made you feel. So please tell her.

Report to Facebook for removal also, they may have their own set of rules on posting photos to their platform without the subjects permission, I would guess that they do.

Sorry this has happened to you, and I hope she offers you free treatments for life and is appalled at herself for her mistake.

MotionActivatedDog · 09/08/2021 20:31

You need to post underneath the photo. “Please remove this photo. I ticked the box to say I didn’t want my photo taken and you confirmed this verbally with me. You took this photo without my knowledge or permission and have no published it on your public Facebook page without my permission. Very disappointed. I won’t be using your services again and I will be sharing this experience with everyone I know.”

Boredmotherofone · 09/08/2021 20:32

Personally I would've told her I was fleeing a very sinister domestic violence situation and that she's now put your life in danger!
No, it's not true BUT it bloody well could've been!!!!! She needs to see how this could affect someone. I have a close friend who is on the run from her ex DH who is a convicted murderer (yes this is true, regardless of the snotty replies I'll get on here). She had to pack up her 4 kids & entire belongings and leave her house at 1am after discovering that he knew what town they were in. At one point she had police patrolling her street 2x per night as they knew what he was capable of. She cannot have any photographs of her or her children taken^^ AT ALL. If this happened to her, they'd have to go back into a Refuge at the other end of the country, uprooting her kids again.

VimFuego101 · 09/08/2021 20:36

@MotionActivatedDog

This. she won't want to leave the pic up with your comment underneath.

Muckles · 09/08/2021 20:38

@Galassia

Leave a review on her page stating her breach of confidentiality

This.

21Bee · 09/08/2021 20:39

She has breached GDPR laws. Businesses have a duty to keep your data, which includes images, safe. I would let her know that if she doesn’t delete the picture from Facebook and her phone you will report her for a breach.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 09/08/2021 20:40

It’s not a mistake.

A mistake is unplanned eg accidentally putting a red dress in with a white wash.
She’s obviously thought Op would never find out. Therefore she’s just thought f**k her and put the photos up.

She also can’t go with the human error or I didn’t know she’d ticked the refusal box either. She knew this quite well which as a result of she started questioning op.

SirGawain · 09/08/2021 20:49

This is a breach of data protection legislation.

BecauseMyRingBurnsSheila · 09/08/2021 20:53

ico.org.uk/make-a-complaint/

This a personally identifiable data violation.

Lairymary · 09/08/2021 20:54

So she tagged you in it too? How very odd if she had a conversation with you about it. She sounds a bit ditzy!

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MaybeAMoaner · 09/08/2021 20:59

No she didn’t tag me it was my friend who saw the photo so tagged me.

Thank you all for your sympathy and advice.
I don’t want to comment on it or leave a review as it will draw attention to it or make me out to be a whiney cow (doubt everyone will see my point like you all have)

I think I will send her a message and ask her to remove it, even though the damage is done now.

I think she posted it purely for her own gain so she can build her portfolio of before and afters. I should have known she would do this when she was puzzled by me ticking yes to not allowing my photos. Grrr.

Thanks all

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