(my) toddlers covered in poo and bites. Gah!!!

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Put twins to nap, newly got sides off cot. Could hear them awake but sounded fine so left them. Odd scream but they aren't talking really so scream as general annoyance etx and was only a few seconds at a time. Hear banging so go in and there's poo smeared over then and their clothes. The beds. The carpet. Anything they've touched. T2 has bite marks (tiny mouth bites and fresh) under his top. I've washed them twice Inc in antibacterial wash but I'm at a loss as to what else to do. I've gone through the motions of telling t1 off for biting but how else do i stop It happening again?

Video monitor? That seems the most logical option! Must’ve been a fair time for them to have got poo quite so far so maybe they were doing it quietly at first

What aged toddlers are they? Not a lot I found fixed biting apart from separating then naughty step as they got older and learnt reward based behaviour then a reward chart works well- but if they aren’t verbal then I’m not sure how much they would understand?

Naps in separate rooms?

How old are they?
I would put sides back on cots pdq.
Dress them in onesies that fasten up the back.

You supervise them? You can’t put two pre verbal toddlers awake in a room together and just leave them to it and ignore the occasional screaming!

@234Pepperplant

You supervise them? You can’t put two pre verbal toddlers awake in a room together and just leave them to it and ignore the occasional screaming!

Ok i realise my writing made it sound like they're just screaming away. One of them would yell, I'd start to go up, it would all go quiet or there would be giggles. Maybe 3 of those in amongst apparent silence and giggles. I didn't think it was a good idea to keep going in if they were quiet by the time i got there as they aren't thrilled at having their sides off

If i sit in their room whilst they nap (what do i do about my 6 yo?) they def won't sleep.

We've moved EVERYTHING out of their room bar their low cotbeds and bedding.

How do people get their toddlers to fall asleep whilst they're in the room? They just get out and climb on me. I put one back. The other is out. By the 10th time it's hysterically good fun and they're giggling at ot

@endofthelinefinally

How old are they? I would put sides back on cots pdq. Dress them in onesies that fasten up the back.

20 months. They can climb out the cots, hence sides off

@pastabest

Naps in separate rooms?

They're hard enough to get to nap in their bare rooms, let alone my bedroom or DSs. Im thinking seperate naps so different times??

@TheGirlWhoLived

What aged toddlers are they? Not a lot I found fixed biting apart from separating then naughty step as they got older and learnt reward based behaviour then a reward chart works well- but if they aren’t verbal then I’m not sure how much they would understand?

20 months. I feel like they SHOULD understand at this age but theb is it a development problem or shit parenting?

@TheGirlWhoLived

Video monitor? That seems the most logical option! Must’ve been a fair time for them to have got poo quite so far so maybe they were doing it quietly at first

Yeah i actually think the noise only came once they'd made the mess cos i went up as soon as the banging started at t2 has a habit of sitting against doors and head banging so i went straight up

It is very difficult once they can climb out of the cot.
Is the room big enough to divide with a dog barrier?
I have a friend who did this to keep dog one side, toddler on the other.
Wooden battens on each wall, rails and gate attached. Much taller than a conventional stairgate.
Get rid of the cots and put mattress on floor.

Definitely a video cam.

Do they actually still need a nap?

20 months it's still very young, they might get a sharp no as soon as biting happens,then forget and repeat it takes a while. Definitely won't register enough to know not to do it when they're unsupervised. Also, are they deep/angry/actual bites or more like playful nipping (kinda puppy like) because they think it's funny and tickles.

Oh op I have no advice but just came on to sympathise as I remember the days of cot to bed transition very well. 27 times my boy climbed out one night. We ended up supernannying him and just not making eye contact or speaking as we put him back but I can't see how that would be possible with two!

Hope you get sorted soon.

@endofthelinefinally

Definitely a video cam.

Husband is gonna try and rig something up through ab old phone

@ObviousNameChage yes. Might not if they slept through but often one is awake for a few hours at stupid am. Today they've not napped but both fell asleep in the pushchair when we popped out. T1 would habe slept hours of left. They're angsty by midday if they don't get a nap.
They're quite obvious bites considering he had a t-shirt on but from the noise i think he thought it was funny - he's at the lunging at people for loves stage and when he bites me it's always playfully but it's still a good clamp and hurts

@Betsythecheshirecat thank you. Ots so hard with twinsf- room is tiny and dh os doing bed for ds so can't even have a baby each. They just get up as soon as you lie them down and they think its SO funny. My stern face and voice is comical, apparently