I am not sure what to do so I am looking for some advice. I have not had any contact with my parents for many years due to previous abuse to both myself and my children. I don’t want to drip feed so here’s the deal.
Going NC 10 years ago was is the best thing I’ve ever done. To the outside world they are performance parents and like to tell everyone how hard done to they are and how I’ve banned them from seeing their GC.
In reality they have said and done horrible things. They blamed me for my child having a disability, they refused to see my younger DD because she talk too much when she was 3 but the final straw was when they physically assaulted my DD when she was 5.
Anyway it was recently my DS 21st and they have sent him a cheque for £1,000. This is a huge amount of money to him as I am a disabled single parent and he’s a student. He said just put it in the bin, which I’m fine with, it’s his choice. However I’m not sure if he’s trying to protect me.
I explained I’d be happy for him to accept it (I know they are trying to buy there way into his life). He has no interest in seeing them but this would allow him to learn to drive as we haven’t been able to afford lessons. He could look at it as compensation for having 2 rubbish grandparents or payback for when I had to pay them an hourly rate to babysit on the odd occasion I was in hospital and had no other option. I want to give him the choice but provide him with a balanced argument to allow him to make the choice.
Does anyone have any advice?