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How many hours per day do you spend talking to your partner if you live with them?

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TwizzleB · 08/08/2021 00:43

I know each couple is different and it varies depending on if holidays, life state but would be great to know on average, how much time you spend chatting to your partner and what do you do when you’re both at home and not chatting?

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UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 08/08/2021 00:48

We have a 4-YO, a 2-YO and a 2-month-old. We’re lucky if we manage 15 minutes of proper conversation every few nights. Otherwise it seems we’ve constantly got our hands full with kids / work / chores.

We have thankfully had a few «date nights» with just the baby, when my mum has looked after the older two. If we get 2 hours that way, we talk about funny things the kids have done, job aspirations, things we look forward to doing post-pandemic, politics…

WaterIsBest · 08/08/2021 00:51

Both been home 24/7 for the last 17 months

I think we spend around 3 hours together ‘talking’ in the day and then lay in bed before sleeping watching tv for about 5 hours,

user1471560845 · 08/08/2021 00:58

Some days we chat on and off via text all day, but then once kids in bed just watch the tele together and don’t talk at all! Then other days, if haven’t had a chance to catch up throughout the day, watch something easy breezy on the tele and chat throughout

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TwizzleB · 08/08/2021 11:15

Thanks everyone so far

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ExtremelyDisorganised · 08/08/2021 11:20

Hard to say really, some days we hardly see each other so its just short, 5 min conversations here and there, other days we might have proper chats lasting half an hour or so. When not chatting we are either with the DCs (teens), doing stuff around the house and garden, watching TV, playing with our phones, on the phone to our parents, reading, other hobby stuff. We both work outside the home.

OhGiveUp · 08/08/2021 12:32

When he's at home, which is usually for a fortnight every 4 months, we chat about anything and everything.
So, a two week chatfest.

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TwizzleB · 08/08/2021 18:03

Thanks everyone so far :)

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Bargebill19 · 08/08/2021 18:10

About 45 mins per day.
But! We are both on opposing work shifts, so either one of us is either out or asleep or about to go to sleep/go to work.

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TwizzleB · 10/08/2021 14:28

Thanks so far

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TokyoSushi · 10/08/2021 14:30

We've been together 20 years and it really varies. Some days we'll chat all evening, others we'll barely speak, not because of any ill-feeling, just because of the DC/wanting to watch something on tv/tired etc.

Annasgirl · 10/08/2021 14:32

We used to talk for longer before DC but now we have 3 and a dog and busy jobs - so we talk sometimes for 1 hour sometimes for 10 minutes. DH is not really a talker so he is usually listening Grin.

It was worse when we first dated as DH hates using phones and so I had to "train" him to chat for longer than 2 minutes.

I think as long as you still enjoy chatting to each other, it doesn't really matter how much as it ebbs and flows over the course of relationships and the presence of children or busy times at work etc.

When at home and not chatting - we are with DC or reading (me) watching TV (him) or gardening/housework. We spend a lot of time doing sport and so time at home is usually for catching up, relaxing.

TheGlassBlowersDaughter · 10/08/2021 14:35

Are you concerned you don't chat enough @TwizzleB or is it a survey? Grin

It's funny, I was thinking about this yesterday because we've both been wfh since the pandemic started but we don't chat constantly. We value our own space so we gravitate to different rooms. We probably chat about 3 hrs per day in 20mins to 1hr blocks.

When we're not chatting, we're either working, reading (me); watching tv with the DC (me); watching tv on his own (DH); building stuff (DH). We have very different TV watching habits so specially arrange to watch stuff together as our tastes don't really overlap.

TheDogsMother · 10/08/2021 14:37

On and off all day. We both WFH.

Amz6219 · 10/08/2021 14:40

Totally depends on the day - mood, children around, work, weekend etc.

Usually quite a lot though, when I am having introvert moments I just have a bath and read or go on my phone, but generally we chatter quite a lot

Iusedtobesoooomuchfun · 10/08/2021 14:43

Around 3 hours per day probably. More at weekends. 3 kids, pets etc.

Lyricallie · 10/08/2021 14:47

We both currently work from home so probably quite a lot as we're sitting next to each other. We have our own hobbies in the evening (gym/martial arts) then maybe one will cook dinner whilst the other does a chore in another room. But yea we chat a lot.

annacondom · 10/08/2021 14:50

Hours? Don't be silly. Minutes? The odd few here and there. In my defence, been together a very long time and mostly mind - read Grin

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