I think my friends have dropped me

[Iimaginethiswillbefun]

Please be gentle. I’m friends with a small group of people from where I used to work. We all left the company about 6 years ago but have stayed in touch via WhatsApp. We have been invited to each other’s weddings etc.

I know they meet up without me, they all live nearby each other and I have kids they don’t etc

However, the WhatsApp group we are all on has gone dead. I was able to see them just as things opened up a while ago. And we were in constant contact during lockdown.

I’ve sent a couple of hi hope everything is ok’s etc but have heard nothing back and the ticks are blue so messages have been read.

Shall I assume they have moved on? Not exit the group just mute and archive it maybe? It feels like a kick in the teeth. I don’t think I did anything wrong.

Archive the chat so you don’t keep being reminded off it everytime you use WhatsApp that will start and then just allow them to move on. Similar thing happened to me, 2 of my good work friends started to work together and they just bonded better, we did meet up a few weeks ago but they had all their own inside work jokes etc so I just archive the chat and haven’t heard anything since

This happened to me with an NCT group. It hurts like hell, but just archive it and move on.

Thank you.

Does hurt. A couple of things have been said so I know there is a whole other WhatsApp group without me. Which is fair enough I guess. I will bow out gracefully.

Please don’t take it personally, I think proximity and life stage play a massive role in how groups of friends work. As you say, they all live nearby and are don’t have kids, so are at a similar stage. Please don’t think it’s anything you’ve said or done, or anything about you as a person. You sound lovely! It literally sounds like it’s more a convenience thing as they’re in a different place physically and in life. It still doesn’t make it any less hurtful but please don’t think badly of yourself. I ended up in counselling after the NCT thing as I thought I must have done something horribly wrong, or be a terrible person (I also had PND which didn’t help), but thankfully I got shown a different perspective xx

That’s rough OP. It hurts a lot but ultimately if they can just cut you off collectively as a group then you are probably better off without them, it’s pretty unkind.

Ok chat muted and archived.