If you were at rock bottom and life changed

[Kerrrrs]

Please tell me how? I’m in a dark place. Can’t imagine things getting better. I’m sad and alone.

Oh @Kerrrrs, I’ve been where you are, I promise

Sometimes things get better slowly, sometimes one thing can change and everything else slowly does, but I just want to give you a hug and let you’re future self reassure you - it WILL be all right.

Can you explain a bit more?

This is going to sound so cliche, but please just talk to someone. That was the first step for me. I felt more comfortable speaking to a total stranger (not a therapist - although that helped later on).

You are needed and loved and wanted by someone, even if you can't see it at the moment. Please remember that x

@lavenderandwisteria thanks. I’m 37, single, friends all married, work is very hard and relentless, the house needs doing up, I lost a good friend last year, my siblings all married and live far away and we are not close. I’m alone.

@ldnirish thanks. I have called Samaritans a few times. Didn’t help much. I’m just so fed up of battling on without anything good happening ever.

I was in such a similar situation, it’s so lonely. There’s definitely a special feeling for it, I think I felt almost like I wasn’t fully formed, like there was part of life I wasn’t able to access or enjoy.

I was 39 when I met my DP! I was ready to have donor insemination, anything … but along he came and he drives me bananas sometimes but he is here and lovely (mostly!)

Work stress is awful, any scope to change? I get it’s not that easy.

I agree - please do talk to someone. Even if it's the Samaritans (I've rung them myself) - tel. 116 123 or www.samaritans.org.
Have you spoken to your GP? I know, I know. It sounds trite and a standard response. But I really needed medication before I could sort things out and they can help with that. Is there an employee support programme at work that you can speak to anonymously?

Don't beat yourself up about the house. Fix small things first. Just focus on getting through the next few hours. I'm sorry, I know how naff that sounds but sometimes it can help.

It's hard to know what to suggest. All I can offer is that I was in a place that was very wretched a few years ago. If it hadn't been for my dog at the time, the late great Jasper, I certainly would not be here. (I went to take the ultimate step. He literally saved my life). I know how horrible it feels to be at the bottom of of a pit with steep, slippery sides that's seemingly impossible to claw your way out of.

Keep going though, @Kerrrrs. I know it's awful. But keep going. You are valued and people care about you. It's won't always be like this.

The world is a better place because you are in it.

Every good wish to you. xxx