Awkward situation, friend wants me to put her in touch with other friend, WWYD?

[Maria53]

I have 2 friends that work in a notoriously male dominated sector. Let's say friend 1 is my best mate, friends for many years, and friend 2 I work with and has become a close friend.

I invited them both to a social event once & friend 1 was strangely full on with friend 2. I think she was over excited to meet another woman working on her field and kind of bombarded her with work talk. My friend is usually very chilled so now friend 2 thinks she is pretty intense.

Anyway, last time I saw friend 1, she asked me for friend 2's number. I fobbed her off and forgot about it. Now she has asked me to ask friend 2 to work on a project with her. I don't want to.

I still think she is being very intense because they have met only once. I love friend 1 and value her friendship so I want to deal with this the right way, while not making friend 2 feel awkward. WWYD?

just pass on a note from friend 1 to friend 2, including friend 1's phone number. If friend 2 wants to get in touch, fine, if she doesn't, you've done what you can

Have you asked friend 2 what she thinks, or are you just unilaterally deciding she will feel awkward?

You need to just ask friend 2 if she is okay for you to pass on her number or not (and stop unilaterally deciding what friend 2 may or may not be thinking/feeling).

Give friend 1's number to friend 2 - job done, it's up to friend 2 then.

I haven't asked her yet @PotteringAlong. I just know she wasn't very keen on my friend after their first and only meeting.

My friend was suffering from anxiety at the time and she's much better now but obviously that has been friend 2's first impression.

I would tell friend 1 that I am happy to pass on her number to friend 2 but that’s it. I don’t want any harassment if friend 2 isn’t interested.

Then I would give friend 2 the number of friend 1 and leave it up to her and refuse to get in any more conversations behind either ones backs.

Tell friend 1 you'll pass her phone number on to friend 2 and she'll be in touch if she's interested. Perhaps she can send a Linked In message in the meantime if it's work related.

It sounds like the best thing might be to pass friend 1's number to friend 2.

Seems completely obvious now people have said it!