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Is anyone else's family like this or is it just mine?

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Chimentolo · 05/08/2021 13:19

I love and am close to my family but they are the kind of people who have to "say their piece" and I'm finding it exhausting and draining. One of my sisters in particular just cannot, CANNOT keep quiet if you have offended her in some way - like if you've snapped at her a bit or whatever you'll get a three page long text message first thing the next morning saying how you've upset her.

I am obviously not advocating that people should keep their feelings to themselves and bottle up their resentment but surely SOME things can just be let go? I would be absolutely miserable if I felt I had to tell every single person who has ever upset me what they did and why it was wrong. All that happens is I get all these feelings dumped on me, they feel better and then I feel like shit. And none of them would ever, ever admit to over reacting.

I dunno if anyone remembers that scene in Bridesmaids where Maya Rudolph says to Kristen Wiig "why can't you just be happy for me and then go home and talk behind my back like a NORMAL PERSON?!"

Obviously tongue in cheek as clearly it's not healthy to talk behind people's backs but I 100% understand the sentiment. I feel a bit like a dustbin for everyone else's emotions right now because I'm not a confrontational person.

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bonfireheart · 05/08/2021 20:24

Thankfully my immediate family isn't like this but extended family is like this. I keep myself to niceties but avoid giving anyone my number, none of them are on my social media and I've even politely declined the last few party invites. I don't mind being thought of as antisocial if it means I can protect my mental health without their drama.

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