We have couple friends who are part of our wider social circle. Get on fine with both, don't dislike either of them, but I have really struggled with what can be very full on attention from the wife, who for some reason pin pointed me as best "girly" mate material & would literally corner me when ever we went out as a group, to the point where I stopped going as it was so bloody tedious & she's very thick skinned, so never took hints.
TBH there was a time she totally got on my tits, but I've realised over the years, she not actually a bad person, she's actually really nice, kind etc & part of her full on bluntness is cultural & id say a large part she was a very spoilt MC only DC, so can be quite entitled in her behaviour at times, something that never sits well with me.
We are just very different people & I honestly can't say we have any common ground at all bar polite chit chat. They have no kids (from choice), she's never had a career & they are wealthy so she's never needed to work, but has done part time voluntary work for a few years, which recently came crashing down with her having accusations of improper behaviour thrown at her. Lots of dramatic posts about it on Facebook etc & tbh, knowing her, I can absolutely see that she probably did do as accused, but just didn't realise it could be seen badly & break rules.
TBH in her support, it was a very OTT reaction from the charity manage who banned all staff from speaking with her. I don't know the full ins & outs, we aren't close & I'd prefer to keep it that way, but I suspect she borrowed a donated item & it was seen as theft.
I feel bad as DH & I have wondered if she's okay from some of her posts & maybe even drunk when posting, she had some drink issues in the past. But conversations with her in the past tend to be one way & literally wear me out. She talks at me, presumes interests I don't have & finished my friggin sentences for me, generally pinning me in a corner that required loo breaks to escape & then she'd follow me to wherever I escaped to after the loo.
I think my ex career interests her & makes her think we have, common ground as she always want to talk clothing & make up etc. Asks my advice on say a scarf colour combination with her outfit & then answers for me, say she knows I'd get it & agree as I have such good taste etc, when I literally can't get a word in edge ways 
I liked a post of hers on Faceache last night which has lead to her sending me several messages overnight, inviting me for a "girly get together, just the two of us" & the whole idea fills me with dread. I have good reason to say no for the next 2 weeks as my vaccine won't have kicked in until then, but I know she won't hear no, but not now & will push for a meet as soon as I can
Admittedly I am an anti social cow, health problems/disability have taught me to spend my time wisely & not put myself in situations I'm not happy with. I can be very blunt & take no shit when the person is an arse, but she isn't, she's just not my cup of tea & the only way I could get through a meet with her is to be completely false & happily chat about stuff I've no interest in etc, but that's just not me. I have little spare energy to see actual long time close friends, let alone make new ones with people I don't really gel with IYSWIM
I don't want to upset her though as she isn't a bad person, especially if she's fragile atm, but meeting up fills me with dread as I know how it will go, plus it will put me in a best mate box as far as she's concerned & it won't be a one off
Ideas on how I can politely, but very firmly say no, not now, not ever, without risking hurting her, which I really don't want to do, especially atm
Help 