What do you think?

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Don't feel in the mood for AIBU tonight. But ...

My 20 year oldstudent dd is back here in her home town for a few days. Last night she went out to a BBQ with her best friend from home (who lives nearby) a little further afield. They walked home together very late at night and then dd's friend called her Dad to pick her up at the point where they would go their separate ways as she didn't want to walk on alone. So he came to pick her up in the car ... at which point they both waved my dd goodbye to walk home on her own. This was 10 mins walk for dd, would have been 2 mins extra drive for her friend's Dad to drop her off here. Do you think that's ok or would you have given your dd's friend a lift/expected your dh to give her a lift?

I would have offered a lift. Maybe your DD said she didnt want one?

Yes I think it's odd that the dad never offered her a lift home but I think they should have planned how they were going to get home in advance.

That's shit

No, my dd was non-plussed they didn't offer to drop her off! When they were both younger girls at school living close to each other we often gave her friend a lift home and vice versa. As my dd said to me today "Dad would never have done that".

I wouldn't have expected it, she's 20 years old, an adult who I would presume could manage to get herself home. However, it would have been polite/kind for her friend's dad to offer if he was going that way anyway, especially as they've known eachotgwr so long.

Also this being said, if it was my daughter's friend then yes, I would have offered her a lift

That's awful. If it was late and I was tired I'd have been pissed off (as the driver) but I'd never leave a dc's friend to walk home alone late at night.

Yes, I agree it was late and they should both have thought a bit more about how they were getting home. However, as her friend's Dad did turn out for her, I think he could have done the decent thing and also dropped my dd home. Literally 2 or 3 minutes out of his way.

I'm thinking back to the time my dh drove this girl home literally puking into a carrier bag in the backseat of his car.

Would so love to remind these parents of that.