Boundaries: How do you think they should work?

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I thought I might post this in 'relationships', but it's quite lighthearted, despite being a very important topic. I've come from another thread which referenced the 'Shark Cage' analogy (www.oomm.live/the-shark-cage-metaphor-spotting-potential-abusers/) for boundaries. I'm hot on boundaries but had never heard of that.

There's so much on here about relationships and many people seem to have poor boundaries without realising it (me too, until a few years back), so I thought it might be good to have a thread of tips and experiences about how we all maintain our sense of safety and security in life.

Anybody got any thoughts?

Have you read any of the books by John Cloud and Henry Townsend?

I know what my boundaries are and anyone who crosses them stays the fuck on the other side, goodbye.

Ive had to learn boundaries. Ive a friend, who would contact me every hour of the day if I allowed her. She doesnt live local and we chat for a couple of hours every other week now. She will still push, but im confident at holding them in place with no guilt.

I'm pretty introverted so too much of anything makes me aggy. I feel better for slowly easing this in rather than a hard one.

And I feel a bit of a cow saying this, but some people need training.

OMFG, I have shit boundaries. People barge through mine like a fucking t-rex.

I need guidance.

I am prepared to learn from you all.