How much should he pay towards bills?

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I have my own house and we've talked about partner moving in (he's currently renting)

Should I just split the utility/food bills, or take mortgage into account, or have him pay what I would charge a lodger (to include bills)

I was advised to get a cohabitation agreement written up by solicitor. It's about £500 but it's worth it.

This is definitely money well spent, especially if you were seriously considering fully subsiding his share of the house-related expenses. You’d make this back in no time.

@Crinkle77 - I do wonder if, as @Dacquoise says, you are very much comparing apples with oranges…

[quote Dacquoise]@Crinkle77, the ones I have seen usually involve women who are not married, looking after the children of the relationship and having no safety net if they split. The number of women who end up in this situation is mind boggling.[/quote]
I think in OP's situation she would be benefitting. If they split he's paid half of her mortgage but could be out on his ear with no notice.

It's no different to renting somewhere if you don't own the property. You wouldn't expect a landlord to put you on the deeds.

Her mortgage is being paid, the partner has benefitted from the accommodation he lives I until he doesn't.

If he wants to accumulate property equity he can either buy into the property, buy something else together or separately or get married. Doesn't seem like they're at that stage yet but if the relationship is successful they can make it more formal.

I don't understand why one party should be responsible for accommodating the other at their expense. Most people either rent or get a mortgage to house themselves.

I think in OP's situation she would be benefitting. If they split he's paid half of her mortgage but could be out on his ear with no notice.

Which is why people are suggesting getting a co-habitation agreement drawn up.

He’s living in a property that someone else owns.

He doesn’t just get to live there for free because he’s in a relationship with the person - unless this has specially been agreed because, for example, he’s not working and is raising their children (so therefore providing equally, but in a different way).