Is it rude, or is it me ?

[DinosaurDiana]

DH comes down late morning (retired so doesn’t get out of bed until 10.30) and announces that he’s going out for the afternoon. We don’t have any plans, but isn’t it rude and thoughtless to give one hours notice that he’s going out ? Or am I expecting too much ?

It’s not consideration it’s control- I don’t answer to my husband, if he wants to do something he can suggest it and vice versa, otherwise I would do as I please

FFS MN is nuts. Of course it isn't control @OnlyFoolsnMothers. If OP said no or sulked, it would be controlling. Letting your partner know that you won't be around when you would usually be there and doing things as a couple is just consideration.

OP isn't saying she doesn't want him to go, just that she would like to know that he has made plans so won't be around to do the things they usually do together on her day off, like going to the shops or out for a coffee, so she can make other plans. From what OP says, there is an expectation that they would spend her day off together as that is what they normally do. It sounds like you are the opposite, you never do anything with your husband unless it is preplanned.

It would have been polite to let her know as soon as he made plans so she could make alternative plans in advance.

If anything, it's more controlling to never let your partner know what you are up to. Not that OP has said her DH does that.

Some on MN love over analysing! He’s free to do as he pleases. So are you. Talk to him, not us,

If anything, it's more controlling to never let your partner know what you are up to that makes sense

It’s simple if you want to do something particular then plan it, a persons plans don’t have to be run past your partner unless it impacts them ie. childcare.
I don’t get upset if my husband walks out the door and I don’t know where he’s going no- but then again I’m no co dependant