I think I do this. I think I can be overbearing. Early in my relationship I would empty and load the dishwater and put a wash on when DP was in work and I was working from home. I would leave food for him sometimes. I would put flowers in the hallway. I would make the bed immaculately, leave notes or a bottle of his favourite beer in the fridge etc etc. I would arrange trips and send him plans of where to go. I guess part of this was I didn’t have many money worries so buying the odd thing or booking a trip wasn’t a big deal financially. But I know all of what I did was rooted in the idea of ‘please like me back.‘ 
After a while I got the sense that the appreciation for what I was doing was not really there (understandable if someone is doing this all the time!).
It’s in my nature to want to do things for others and I sense I do this too much so it actually becomes overbearing. I still WANT to do all these things but I hold back as much as I can. It goes against what I feel and want to do.
Just wondering if you’re on the other side of this, how it makes you feel? Would this be too much for you?