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Would you let your 11 year old choose paint colour for bathroom?

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Whydidimarryhim · 02/08/2021 21:55

I’m having my bathroom done and I have a choice of 2 colours for the wall. One is a peach - it’s call Eastern spice which I like - the other is Luna landscape - a blue colour - both will go with the fittings.
He doesn’t like the spice colour and his input is that as I choose the wall and floor tiles and the bathroom suite he should have his input?
The blue will go nicely but it won’t have the same intact for me.
I can’t see a compromise!!!
Thought please.😀

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Buckleyourseatbelt · 02/08/2021 22:00

Choose what you, the adult want.

DramaAlpaca · 02/08/2021 22:02

Of course not! No need for compromise here. You are the parent, it's your house, you get to choose. Don't pander to an eleven year old.

mumoftwomonkeys · 02/08/2021 22:03

i can imagine my 11 year old self screaming pink at the top of my lungs, but ultimately i would be fond of a nice blue colour Smile

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JaffaRaf · 02/08/2021 22:07

I’d let my 11 year old have a say (I don’t have one tho, mines 6), not to ‘pander’, just because I enjoy having the kids involved in things like that! Obviously if the colour wouldn’t work I’d over rule really, but if it’s a choice between 2 and both would work I’d personally let them have a say. Just a parenting preference I guess, I deff don’t think the 11 year old is entitled to a say though.

Clymene · 02/08/2021 22:07

As you said, you're having your bathroom done. He gets to choose his bedroom colour. The rest of the house is yours.

candycane222 · 02/08/2021 22:08

Haha my parents let a roughly 11yo me choose the colour scheme for the loo once. It was dark purple with pink accents. Not only did they regret it, I did too, after a couple of years Grin

But that's of no relevance to you. Will he take on his share of loo and bath cleaning, if he gets to get a share in choosing the paint colour?

Aquamarine1029 · 02/08/2021 22:08

If it were his room, yes he should have input. The bathroom, no.

Dannicalifornia · 02/08/2021 22:08

I let DD3 choose the colour paint for the kitchen when she was 3 years old Blush

KillerFlamingo · 02/08/2021 22:10

I'd tell him to buy his own house, then he can choose all the colours!

Your house, your paint. I'd take suggestions and definitely let him choose for his own room but the rest of the house? You have the final say.

moonbedazzled · 02/08/2021 22:11

I'd be happy for him to choose if it was between choices I liked. Other than that I'd say he could have an equal say when he buys the floor tiles, the wall tiles and the suite himself.

MrsBede · 02/08/2021 22:13

My 10/11 year old frequently tells me he hates my decoration choices. He was going to leave if I painted the hall a very dark green. (I did and he didn't). I have made the house look mouldy by painting the window frames sage green and he is now 'embarrassed for me' because I've chosen rustic tiles for the downstairs loo and everyone will hate them and think they're dirty but be too polite to say. I have told him that I got no say whatsoever in my parents' choices and this house is my turn to have my choice. He will get his choices when he's older in his own home. He definitely sees the logic of that and still gives his opinions but doesn't really try and change my mind as he knows it wouldn't be fair.

Justmuddlingalong · 02/08/2021 22:15

What's to compromise or negotiate? Choose the colour you like.

RaginaPhalange · 02/08/2021 22:39

When he has his own house sure he can decorate his house the way he wants.

Your house, you have final say.

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand · 02/08/2021 22:42

@DramaAlpaca

Of course not! No need for compromise here. You are the parent, it's your house, you get to choose. Don't pander to an eleven year old.
Agreed. The eleven yr old will move out before you redecorate. You'll have to live with it for longer.

And you're paying for it!

Original poster
Whydidimarryhim · 03/08/2021 06:04

Oh thankyou all.
I’m going with what I want. 😃
Bring on the eastern spice.

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JustATypo · 03/08/2021 06:15

I’d give him a choice of white or white.

Florin · 03/08/2021 06:22

I let our 9 year old choose our car Blush

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Whydidimarryhim · 03/08/2021 06:27

🤣Florin!!! What did you end up with?

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SD1978 · 03/08/2021 06:29

This isn't a compromise thing. It's not his room it's your ensuite. You paid for it, you get what you want. When's he's footing the renovations, or if it's his bedroom, then he can have a say!

TheWholeJingbang · 03/08/2021 06:38

Jesus Christ OP I’d be nipping this entitlement in the bud NOW

Help be telling you what car to buy or vetoing furniture selection if you start with this nonsense

I always ask for my children’s opinions but they would be so shocked if I let them decide family decor

HandforthParishCouncilClerk · 03/08/2021 06:38

Having just looked up the paint colours, I’m with your 11 year old!

caughtinanet · 03/08/2021 06:47

I'm interested in why this was even a question. It's so random yet it seems like you don't know that it's not the norm to have to let a child make your decisions

What's the back story?

illuyankas · 03/08/2021 07:11

We did, why not? Depends on the child's taste, if outrageous choice, maybe not. But if sensible and decent, matches other details, then I have no problem my dc choosing colour etc.

BikeRunSki · 03/08/2021 07:12

I’m normally a big fan of blues, but I love Eastern Spice, and I’m not so keen on Luna Landscape. My 12 year old would love me to paint the bathroom orange!

LucyFox · 03/08/2021 07:25

Why does it have to be one of those two colours? There are hundreds of others – can’t you find one that you can both appreciate? if this is the bathroom that he will need to use, it does seem unfair that you aren’t listening where he says he hates one of the colours …