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How much would you contribute to honeymoon as a wedding gift?

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SustainableAquaculture · 02/08/2021 16:10

My family have been invited to a wedding. The couple have not got a gift list/wedding registry and have instead asked for online monetary contributions for their honeymoon. We are not sure how much to give or what kind of sum would be the norm here.

For context, the invitation came from a long-term family friend. We have never met their spouse. We have only been invited for the evening portion of the day - we've not been invited to the ceremony or any of the daytime festivities (e.g. the main sit-down meal).

Any advice on how much we should give?

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Jerseygirl12 · 02/08/2021 16:11

£30

MadMadMadamMim · 02/08/2021 16:16

I'd probably give £50. But only because anything less seems a bit 'token'. I certainly wouldn't give more if I was only an evening guest.

Xyzzzzz · 02/08/2021 16:18

£20 but I’m tight

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Chihuahuacat · 02/08/2021 16:18

Evening guest I’d give £20 - £30
Day guest £50
Close friend £100

Scarby9 · 02/08/2021 16:19

How much do you have? What kind of cost would you usually budget for a gift? This is so subjective and dependent on your circumstances.
£30-£50 sounds about what I would give, based on the little information we have.

Dyrne · 02/08/2021 16:20

As an evening guest level of acquaintance I’d be comfortable giving £50 or less. For close friends we usually give £100 or so; so £50 sounds about right. We use the same rough budget for gifts as we do cash presents so whatever you were planning on for a gift, just give that much cash. If you’re skint though just give what you can afford.

maxelly · 02/08/2021 16:21

@Chihuahuacat

Evening guest I’d give £20 - £30 Day guest £50 Close friend £100
This, basically,. I'd add close family member to the £100 list assuming DH and I have been invited as a couple, if it's just me I might possibly half those amounts....
Shirleyphallus · 02/08/2021 16:24

This seems like quite a post to froth up MN Grin

I’m sure by the first page we will have:

  • no one should ask for money
  • being invited as an evening guest is rude
  • combination of the 2 means the couple should be grateful for your presence and tbh probably pay you for the privilege of being in your company
PostMenWithACat · 02/08/2021 16:28

£25 tops.

maxelly · 02/08/2021 16:29

@Shirleyphallus

This seems like quite a post to froth up MN Grin

I’m sure by the first page we will have:

  • no one should ask for money
  • being invited as an evening guest is rude
  • combination of the 2 means the couple should be grateful for your presence and tbh probably pay you for the privilege of being in your company
Add to that Shirley OMG £20 as a gift how extravagant MN is sooo out of touch I feed my 20 children for a week on that and have leftovers, we live in a ditch and we like it, some people don't know they're born Angry....

Or, at the other extreme, people saying they give £1000 plus a bottle of Dom minimum darhling, even if they're only invited to stand outside the church and throw confetti for 5 mins, anything less is cheap.

Not sure either party is real mind you, probably people who enjoy winding up the frothers but fun to watch nonetheless!

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SustainableAquaculture · 02/08/2021 16:30

Very sorry - not meaning to froth up anybody, but we are genuinely stumped as it's the first time we've ever faced such a request.

For context, our family of four (adult kids + parents) have been invited, and each of us have a different opinion on how much we should give!

It is a close family friend - we have all known them for 10-20 years.

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IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 02/08/2021 16:30

No more than £50 imo.

billiebeeme · 02/08/2021 16:40

I'd go £50 as an evening guest. £100 for full day and if close family or friend £200+ (not if I was only invited in the evening though)

Dyrne · 02/08/2021 17:12

@SustainableAquaculture

Very sorry - not meaning to froth up anybody, but we are genuinely stumped as it's the first time we've ever faced such a request.

For context, our family of four (adult kids + parents) have been invited, and each of us have a different opinion on how much we should give!

It is a close family friend - we have all known them for 10-20 years.

What would you normally budget for a gift? Just give that but in cash. You’re overthinking.
Xmasbaby11 · 02/08/2021 17:13

For four adult guests - £50.

BlueLobelia · 02/08/2021 17:14

@Chihuahuacat

Evening guest I’d give £20 - £30 Day guest £50 Close friend £100
exactly the same here.
BlueLobelia · 02/08/2021 17:16

Oh- just saw 4 of you have been invited. Then I would probably (reluctantly) give £100 .. £25 per adult seems about right- not mad but not cheap.

If you were there for the whole thing including meals and booze then i would got for circa £50 per adult.

I much prefer just giving gifts tbh

Noshowwithoutpunch · 02/08/2021 17:19

4 adults then I'm saying £50.
If it was a couple I'd have said about £30.
On my own I'd probably not feel comfortable putting less than £20 though.

LadyShrek2k19 · 02/08/2021 17:20

Depends if you're asking for an amount per person or as the group I guess, but like a PP said, decide what you would've budgeted (either separately or together) to buy something from the registry and then give that.

CliftonGreenYork · 02/08/2021 17:21

I'm sorry but £50 is too much if you have only been invited to the party and not the evening meal. When we got married we asked for no presents but said if people really wanted to, the could buy us some thai baht or contribute to our spending mo
ney. We only out this in the invites to people who came for the whole day as justifed they were getting a lovely meal from us.

We wouldn't expect anything from evening guests but if you want to give them money perhaps £20.

MistyFrequencies · 02/08/2021 17:44

Im in Ireland so maybe different but for a family of 4 adults at evening only I'd give €100 at minimum.
That's based on usual gift of at least €100 per person attending for a full day.

Maggiesfarm · 02/08/2021 17:46

It depends how much you can afford. I'd give £50 but they will be pleased with whatever you give. It all adds up!

Notavegan · 02/08/2021 17:48

We had a list 10 years ago and people tended to give 50. I was surprised and grateful.

Herecomesthesun70 · 02/08/2021 18:03

£30if you're an evening guest. Maximiumm

LittleBearPad · 02/08/2021 18:04

£50