Anyone up? I’m exhausted with worry, partner driving through night

[JohnSteinbeck]

My partner is driving back from his other home. It’s a very long drive (12 ish hours) and he left earlier this evening. I thought he was staying in a hotel but over text he says he will drive on through the night and just rest somewhere for a few hours.

I feel really stupid writing this down but it doesn’t sound like a good decision. I’m feeling really anxious. My stomach is in knots. He doesn’t sleep wonderfully either so when he arrives he’ll probably be asleep for hours & hours.

I feel sick and upset. How can I be with someone who doesn’t look after themselves? How the heck can I sleep?

Yes! Problems are magnified at night,.. I should have more faith in his abilities. Maybe he won’t spend the entire day sleeping tomorrow. I just hate it when he does that, it seems to waste the whole day. It might have been more logical to have stopped, rested, then taken up the journey tomorrow, but hey ho, his life.

I’ve taken some sleeping meds as my own sleep is not wonderful! Tempted to watch something on Netflix while I drift off….

It really is pointless worrying about what others do @JohnSteinbeck, you can't control it.

Surely he can make such decisions for himself. I think he would be pleased, if you went to bed, and stopped worrying.. If he often drives long distances, he will know very well that he should take a break when he feels tired. You need to trust your partners judgement, as worrying is causing you more harm than good.

How are you today, JohnSteinbeck ?
Did you manage to get to sleep and did he arrive safely?

Hi HelloDaisy,
He did arrive safely, thank you for asking. He managed to get some things done, to re-orient himself with this home (his words) and then slept on a while. The day was a bit lost, and he had had to stop as he did have some car trouble, but it was ok in the end.

I’m realising this is party of a bigger, more chaotic picture, which is what triggered my concerns last night. I will post separately about it.

Thank you. This thread did help. I took a sleeping pill and slept 3-8 ish. I’m wide awake now but hopefully will feel better after a bit of time on here.