I feel pathetic

[Bakewellisntjustacake]

I recently started a new job and it categorically is not for me. I hate it, the team is toxic and the job is not as described. I recently interviewed and got offered my absolute dream job.

I handed in my notice yesterday via email and now I feel sick about going in on Monday, I also feel sick looking at my emails incase my boss emails me back. I just hate the way this job makes me feel. I despise it. Im not like this normally and I feel so pathetic that I feel so uncontrollably anxious about my job!

I've worked out I have 13 shifts left. I'm almost guaranteed my boss won't give me a reference, so do I contact my new job and change the referee to hr?

Yes, change the referee details with new employer.

Don't feel pathetic--some people don't know the job isn't for them until they actually start.

How long have you been in new job? If you haven't signed a contract, statutory notice is one week minimum.

If you have been there, less than a month, no notice required.

www.acas.org.uk/notice-periods/notice-when-resigning

@DamnUserName21 I've been there since may

Congratulations on getting your dream job! That's awesome!
Change the referee, everytime you do a shift remind yourself you are a step closer to leaving.
13 more shifts. You've got this!

@RightOnTheEdge thank you! Just got
To push on

I had a job like this, it seemed great during the interview and in the lead up to the job. The training weren’t too bad.

However, things quickly turned sour from my first shift and never improved.

I hated the job, it made me ill, and leaving was the best thing ever.

I really dreaded handing in my notice, I imagined all sorts.

Turns out they didn’t care, they barely acknowledged my last shift.

You are really overthinking this and giving it WAY too much headspace. These people don't give a shit, they really don't. They don't care if you stay and they don't care if you leave. You are giving them far too much power.

@SpringRainbow I think that'll be the reality here too, it's just in my head I feel sick about it

[quote Bakewellisntjustacake]@SpringRainbow I think that'll be the reality here too, it's just in my head I feel sick about it [/quote]
I completely understand. Just keep reminding yourself you will be gone soon.

I couldn’t wait to leave my last job. The notice period felt like forever, but I felt an amazing relief when I walked out the office on my last day. It’s now a distant memory.

Stay strong and focus on the positives that your new job will bring.

I agree you are over-thinking this. Is understandable as your confidence has taken a hit due to the awful circs you have found yourself in. Well done you for getting out so quickly!

Remember legally they must be honest in a reference. But if your new role is still subject to references - have you handed in your notice before that?

I agree change the referee to HR, and focus on moving forwards.