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I only have 1 friend?

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Generalpost · 01/08/2021 13:19

I only have 1 friend. Sometimes I wish I had more. I do feel a bit jealous when I hear of others out with their friends meeting up with other mums etc. But also I'm no good in groups. I'm crap at conversation. But on the other hand life feels to busy at home. I'm a single parent to children/adult children. A couple of them need alot of support. And it's hard. So I feel like actually I don't have time for for friends even though I do want them . And sometimes I think what about me? No one actually makes sure I'm ok or helps at all everything comes on me . Mentally practically and emotionally. I don't even know why I'm writing this or if it makes any sense.

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Billandben444 · 01/08/2021 14:17

I'm sorry you feel the lack but friends aren't all they're cracked up to be and can turn, let you down and take offence in a moment (according to MN). Friendships are hard to sustain if you struggle in groups and with chat. Enjoy your family and hopefully they'll always be there for you 💐

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Generalpost · 01/08/2021 14:33

@Billandben444

I'm sorry you feel the lack but friends aren't all they're cracked up to be and can turn, let you down and take offence in a moment (according to MN). Friendships are hard to sustain if you struggle in groups and with chat. Enjoy your family and hopefully they'll always be there for you 💐
Thank you . Yes it's probably fate that I don't really have any.
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Intherightplace · 01/08/2021 14:39

A lot of the people you see who appear to have lots of friends don't have anything of the sort, rather lots of people they know and the group dynamic of friendship groups can be tough, there's occasions when half the group does something without you for example and you end up feeling hurt, whilst also knowing that they're perfectly reasonable.

If you have one good friend and a family that want to spend time with you, you're in a pretty good position IMO.

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Generalpost · 01/08/2021 14:53

@Intherightplace

A lot of the people you see who appear to have lots of friends don't have anything of the sort, rather lots of people they know and the group dynamic of friendship groups can be tough, there's occasions when half the group does something without you for example and you end up feeling hurt, whilst also knowing that they're perfectly reasonable.

If you have one good friend and a family that want to spend time with you, you're in a pretty good position IMO.

I don't have family to spend time with me. It's just Me and the kids. Who I love to bits but and I will always be there for them and do my best they will always come before me. But sometimes its hard.
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Intherightplace · 01/08/2021 15:03

Yes, that's what I meant, if you have adult (or nearly adult) children who spend time with you...

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Generalpost · 01/08/2021 15:15

@Intherightplace

Yes, that's what I meant, if you have adult (or nearly adult) children who spend time with you...
They are the biggest handful 😅. Ds spends most of the time on his room. Guess that's what teenagers do. Although he does come down to the living room for a chat for an hour. Oldest dd has alot going on and it's really hard work with her and she replies on me heavly. But I guess it will change in the future
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