I have had a fwb for the past 3 months and we have grown very close in that time. I told him that I had feelings for him and he said he can’t be in a relationship. I distanced myself because I was very hurt but I caved in and continued the fwb situation although I was really upset as I didn’t want to stop seeing him. I then told him again how I felt and that we can’t continue so we either need to give things a go or call it a day. He agreed to try because he doesn’t want to lose me. It has been a few days and he hasn’t put any extra effort in. We are still texting and phoning as we normally do but no ‘relationship’ behaviour in general such as suggestions of dates or even talking about us as an item in general. It’s made me a bit 
that he may have agreed to continue the benefits and just stuck a label on it to keep me happy rather than taking it seriously. Although we live an hour apart I would have liked for us to see each other more than fortnightly but I’m unsure if I am expecting too much too soon. I have started a new job so it’s bad timing but I’m willing to put in the work if he is. It’s started to make me think perhaps I don’t want a relationship with him after all and that I just wanted extra attention as recently we haven’t seen each other much? It was all I wanted before and now I don’t feel bothered, is this normal or is it his lack of effort that’s giving me a dose of the ick towards him?