I need some outside opinions on whether I should raise something with DH.
For context, DH is aware of these issues and is very supportive of me while also trying to toe a fine line with his sister.
SiL and I have a cool civil relationship. We are very different and I wouldn't call us friends.
She got a lockdown puppy which I don't like. I'm usually ok around dogs but this one is just badly trained. The dog jumps up at me and my young kids, it's very nippy and destructive. SiL dumps this dog on her parents all the time. Literally all the time. SiL has no control over the dog and lets him do what ever. The last time we saw them dog knocked my toddler over on a hard floor. Child was crying their eyes out and SiL just said 'well that's what dogs do'! Dog is bigger than toddler.
Here's the situation.
DH invited his cousin to come and meet us for a picnic. We've not seen him at all during covid. I like said cousin and was looking forward to it. To be polite he invited other family members and SiL said she'd come. If she comes, the dog comes too ...
I'm now dreading it. I'm dreading the dog going nuts over the food, I'm dreading the lack of control of the dog, I'm dreading the whole thing.
So far I've not said anything to DH. I'm debating asking him about it or sharing my concerns with him. Part of me thinks if I share my concerns we can come up with a plan together that means dog doesn't eat the food / hurts the children. Other part of me worries it puts him in a hard situation. Chances are he's already thinking about this himself as well. He is well aware of the issues with his sister and this dog.
So would you say anything, would you invent a reason to cancel, would you shut up and put up. Open to all suggestions.