Is this normal feeling after sex?

[Treyasr]

I have bad health anxiety and for a while I stopped having sex because of it. I recently started having sex and have worked really hard to get a grip of my fears. My DP has had a health check but I still worry about BV and thrush. I am allergic to condoms (have tried different types but just are suitable. I’m on pill).

After sex I feel funny in my abdomen, not immediately afterwards but maybe the day after, it feels uncomfortable. Not painful but just like I’ve been over touched if that makes sense. Similarly the vulva area feels tender. This happens even if my partner isn’t fully inside and he’s just touched me or been grinding against me a bit. It’s like as soon as I get turned on my tummy gets all in knots a bit afterwards! Then a day later it goes away.

Is this normal? I know see a doctor etc if worried is the best advice but I am working so hard with health anxiety that I want to try and avoid going down that route if i can because it just escalates. Obviously I would go if I was having symptoms of anything specific but just wondered if this thing is normal.

I've also had experience of health anxiety and I feel that I've mostly overcome it by thinking "if it was my friend telling me this, what would I say to her". Definitely do not use doctor google! If you feel the strong need to Google something, go to the doctor.

Our lady parts are fragile things that also handle a lot.

In terms of BV and thrush, pretty much all women experience this and it's something that we can easily deal with if it comes up

The feeling you have afterwards in your tummy is probably just you being more aware of how your body feels because you're anxious. I would speak to your doctor though, just explain everything to them and they should help

Hope this has helped you and you manage to get it sorted xx

I would speak to your gp. I had a constant abdominal pain and bleeding after sex. Fast forward a few years of neglecting it and thinking it was normal had to have polyps removed. Pain now gone, It might not be the case for you but definitely worth speaking to your gp.