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To break up or not

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Jenny008 · 29/07/2021 23:06

I am going into my 9th year of marriage and things are taking a toll for the worst. I have 2 kids but I feel so lonely and neglected at home. What makes it worse is, my husband is at home during these times but preoccupied on the phone to his family. He is there to catch their sneeze before they start coughing metaphorically. When it comes to helping me, he gets frustrated, saying I am in the queue. Now, things are getting physical because I can't take it anymore. We argue more because I have cut ties with his family. Their problems were too much to bear and my own household was on fire. When I mean problems, not urgent problems, e.g. his Dad calls him at 1am to say the WiFi is out. Sis calling about what gas company for husband to join, he is handling Dad's insurance and electricity bills, his Mum complaining that she is fed up of her husband and seem to transfer the love to my husband. He even forgot to pay attention to mortgage and electric bill, to the extent that our contract expires and was put on an expensive tariff. I am no angel, because I have been quiet for sooo long, now I get angry and physical with him. I am soo unhappy that I feel like I should sought out for what I lack. What should I do, I have spoken multiple times to him but he sees no problem. We have no communication and I have to argue for him to communicate with the kids. My life now is, I argue for him to get things done. Question is, is this the time to walk?

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CrisisManagement · 30/07/2021 02:23

The other issues could possibly be resolved, but physical altercations are unacceptable. Your children should not be growing up with violence in the home.

Jenny008 · 30/07/2021 08:59

Thanks Crisis, but the issues can't be solved. I hate the person I have become. I was strong but now broken with trust issues. Physical altercation is unacceptable, I agree. A lot has happened that all I am filled with, is anger, regrets, hate to his family. I would speak to him about separation.

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MouseInCatsClaws · 30/07/2021 09:59

can you access counselling? You sound overwhelmed, confused and are unable to manage your anger. I recommend seeking professional help to unlock all these issues. But certainly, your kids should not be exposed to this

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MouseInCatsClaws · 30/07/2021 10:00

unpick, not unlock

spotcheck · 30/07/2021 10:07

You are physically abusing your husband?

I'd say that now is the time to leave- for both his and the children's sake

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