Ex back on the scene.. what do I do!!

[TheSunHasComeOut]

Hello, not a regular poster but I need some advice as very shocked and quite upset by my own feelings.

I am currently in a very happy relationship. We have been together 11 months and I love my partner very much.

However, yesterday I had a message from an 'ex' and its really been messing with my head. For context, I say 'ex' because we only really met up in person a few times and were never in an official relationship. It was a difficult time (he's in the army and was stuck on base because of covid) and was going through some personal shit. Anyway, fast forward to now, since this message I can't stop thinking about him (ex). It was just a generic, 'hey, how have you been' but he always felt very special to me. I know it sounds cheesy but he felt different and we really clicked in a way I hadn't with anyone else (including current dp). I replied and we spoke for a while, and I felt myself wanting to be flirty which I feel so so guilty for. As I said, I am so happy with my current boyfriend so why do I feel like this. Do I block ex and move on? Or is this a sign im not 100% satisfied with my situation. Im only 26, im so confused and sad :( Please help

It’s not a ‘sign’. It’s just that you had some feelings and it sounds like it was unfinished business with this guy. But that moment has moved on, it’s just a moment of ‘what if?’ And if you’re happy now, just either reply saying you’re good and that you’re now in a relationship, or don’t reply at all if you think it will cause issues. But it doesn’t necessarily mean your current relationship isn’t right.

If you never actually met up with him then also you might have ‘clicked’ but it’s a fantasy ‘him’- it isn’t the daily him who is annoying or requires compromise or is a real life person. It’s the idea of him. You haven’t experienced him as a real life person.

It’s just all of the ‘what ifs’ and because you only met up a few times it was more fantasy / what could be / star crossed lovers than real.

Block him, concentrate on your boyfriend and don’t throw it all away for a bloke toy never really had a relationship with

This should be a non issue if you have any sense!

Don’t have lots of communications with someone you v rarely see in person.

I think it's very telling that you say you haven't felt like this for your current DP.........