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Ever suddenly realised everything is a bit meh?

28 replies

orchidsonabudget · 29/07/2021 15:52

Been watching the Olympics
Feel awed by all the amazing athletes
Watched the Helen glover documentary
She was training while breastfeeding twins.

Work part time and am working on a start up that isn't getting off the ground or paying me yet

Dh out of work and we are struggling a bit with that (understatement)

Have struggled with my mental health since lockdown - am on a/ds
We are going on "hol" in U.K. to visit in laws and am worried it is going to be really busy.

So hard to be able to get excited about anything and can't help feeling like it's a very average life we have and only getting less average

Not sure I am even making sense

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the80sweregreat · 29/07/2021 16:04

Olympians are a different breed to most people plus the lady with the twins and the rowing practice may have had a lot of parental support whilst she was doing it! Most people don't have any support at all so couldn't be like this ( even if they wanted to!) plus rowing is a niche sport isn't it ?
I wouldn't beat yourself up about any of this and try to have a nice time away.
I hope your dh can find a job soon.
Most people have a 'hum drum ' life although I do understand what you mean.
I m sure things will look up soon for you.

RainbowChameleon · 29/07/2021 16:21

Yes. Agree with above that for most of us, life is humdrum. There's a thread on the mental health section about understanding why people have enough of life which sums my thoughts up.

Darkchocolateandcoffee · 29/07/2021 16:54

Are you by any chance perimenopausal?

I realised I was feeling like that, plus a few other symptoms, and going onto HRT has given me my zing back!

Surreyvillager · 29/07/2021 16:56

I think its lockdowns op. I'm hoping over the next year things will get less meh.

orchidsonabudget · 29/07/2021 17:19

Yes am perimenopausal
That is an interesting point too

Everything just so hum drum

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orchidsonabudget · 29/07/2021 18:36

Does anyone have any ideas to lift the mood thiiigh?

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RainbowChameleon · 29/07/2021 18:40

Exercise, alcohol and anti depressants.

BogRollBOGOF · 29/07/2021 22:18

@orchidsonabudget

Does anyone have any ideas to lift the mood thiiigh?
I've taken up a new hobby of open water swimming. If nothing else I now appreciate my car heaters and a warm shower even more Grin
orchidsonabudget · 29/07/2021 22:43

I tried open water swimming - I read all the stuff about it.
I hoped it would help but I went for an induction that went wrong on a rainy day and I hated the lake and the reeds Freaked me out
I was so ready for the endorphins as well.

I hate feeling so apathetic and negative
It's really not me

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thecatfromjapan · 29/07/2021 22:49

Most of us live small lives. It's rare for most of us to be so touched by love or gift that we're raised above all the other stalks of wheat in the field.

Such extraordinary and exceptional luck and gifts provoke awe - and, as you're experiencing, a slight yearning that our lives could be 'more'.

It's hard to live one, finite life. It's natural to wish that it could be fuller, wider, saturated more deeply with the extraordinary.

But, honestly, it's always worth remembering that even this one life is an extraordinary thing in itself: unique, precious and amazing.

I'd suggest enjoying something, anything, tomorrow. Really looking at something, or tasting something. Or tonight, revelling in how comfortable your bed is and how welcome sleep is.

And, of course, there's always love: that you give or that you receive. That is nothing short of an everyday miracle for most of us.

And spend time doing what you enjoy. That's insanely hard when children are small but try and make time for it/those things. Because that really is life-enhancing, even if you're not exceptional.

And I find reading, films and art really cheer me up. It seems to add to that finite experience of life - which is, I guess, one of the (many) reasons people just keep on 'doing' culture.

I do think love is pretty special. It makes all of us exceptional, irreplaceable, significant, cherished.

But, yes, it would be very cool to be a world-class athlete. 💐

thecatfromjapan · 29/07/2021 22:50

Oh, and I reckon the pandemic is just grim. It's hard not to feel apathetic and down when we've been stuck with just grind and little joy for a year and a half!

Newbabynewhouse · 29/07/2021 22:54

I feel like this sometimes.. I'm only 30 so not perimenopausal .. (can't spell it) lol... but yeah it's like.. you want to feel excitement but it never really happens...

Viviennemary · 29/07/2021 22:59

I'd hate to be one of those driven Olympic types. I wouldn't even want to be friends with one. But life has been a bit too boring during the Covid. .

IdblowJonSnow · 29/07/2021 23:41

@thecatfromjapan

What a lovely post. So beautifully put.

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the80sweregreat · 30/07/2021 09:50

All this ' wild water swimming' is but a fad I think! You wouldn't get me in any lakes or rivers for love nor money!

LunaNorth · 30/07/2021 09:54

@orchidsonabudget I’m with you. I’m perimenopausal and my mojo has well and truly done one.

In the past two years, both my parents died, my kids have left home, and my peri has started. I feel totally pointless and my (diagnosed, medicated) anxiety is through the roof.

I have an appointment with my GP over the phone tomorrow and I just hope she can help because I’m done in.

orchidsonabudget · 30/07/2021 15:21

Yes @thecatfromjapan amazing post

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orchidsonabudget · 30/07/2021 15:23

Luna. That does sound full on
I am only 43 and many days feel older.
We are lucky - we have all 4 grandparents still but kids are still full on and needy

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Iknowthiswillendbutwhen · 30/07/2021 15:27

I think its the pandemic op and the sheep grind of it. It's hard to be spontaneous.

felulageller · 30/07/2021 18:34

I joke that I'm having a mid life crisis!

Hate my job. There's so much I wanted 20 years ago that I still desperately want. I feel like every day life is just slipping away.

I find the DC's such a drag. It was a huge mistake for me to have more than one. I want my own life back.

But I have a plan and things are changing. If you don't like your life change it. No one else will

Bookridden · 30/07/2021 19:04

@thecatfromjapan I loved your post. You sound very wise and accepting. MN should give you a regular slot to dispense therapy and wisdom to the rest of us, lol.

Surreyvillager · 30/07/2021 20:56

Do you have a garden op? Growing things from seed and making a beautiful garden is magic.

sadperson16 · 30/07/2021 20:58

I would be intrigued to know how alcohol lifts mood.

orchidsonabudget · 30/07/2021 22:09

Yes I don't really have a plan.
I have got some training booked but just feel like we have been treading water for three years now.

It has been hard to plan anything... but trying to because of covid
But also trying to spend as little as possible on everything

No mojo here at all.
This is not the person who I thought I would be when I was a grown up that's for sure

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monstermunch1 · 30/07/2021 22:15

Maybe you need more exercise, how often are you in green spaces?