Honeymoon when you have young children

[Yamaya]

What did you do? Just not have one or take them with you? It's not much of a honeymoon then is it!

We have one parent between us but he is in his 70s and hasn't offered to watch the children for us. I have a brother and sister in law but they aren't very interested and certainly wouldn't offer.

We left ours behind. DS who was 6 at the time went to one of my SIL, DD who was 2 went to another. We went to Rome for 3 nights and it was fab!

If you already have kids most people don't have a proper fancy honeymoon, one night away is a luxury!

Could you roll them in glue and stick fake fur on them and then deposit them at a dog boarding kennel?

(please don't do this!)

My grandchildren were a bit older, but we (I) had them for a fortnight. It was fine. We live near the sea, they went swimming, to the park, crazy golf, leisure centre, out for a meal or two.

A honeymoon fulfilled a social function back in the days when it was a couples’ first opportunity to be intimate - no one wanted to listen to them going at it like rabbits so they were sent far away to get it out of their system and save everyone’s blushes.

Times have changed and instead of trying to fit into the mould of the past, think about what would fit in with your real life circumstances now.

If you take your dc with you and spend your time comparing your holiday to an idealised traditional honeymoon you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. And you’ll be paying for it too!

Accept that your lives are what they are. let’s face it wouldn’t you rather live in a world where marriage is a choice, your dc aren’t a source of shame, and you’re not committing to a life with someone who might not even be good in bed?

Go and have a lovely holiday and celebrate your lovely family together.

We're leaving dd with my mum, however that is mainly for the nights, we have got other family (brothers/sisters etc to have dd for a few of the days/evening as dd will be in nursery each day as usual. Definitely wouldn't want to take her with us, we'll be away for 10 days or so

Could you take another adult with you so they could do some babysitting?

We went away for three days (in the UK and close enough to get home fairly quickly if needed) and Grandma had my little boy for one night and a friend had him for the other two.