Anyone else DH like this?

[RosieLemonade]

Driving me bananas at the moment. It happens several times a day. Today's conversation around swimming

Him: are you having a shower at the pool?
Me: yes if they are open
Him: if what are open?
Me: the showers? They were closed last time we went because of covid.
Him: when were they closed?

Sounds like the comunication is a bit vague.

It might not have occurred to him that the showers would be closed if the pool was open and so he was confused by your response and sought clarification.

I prefer to give and have all the information in one go.

Eg
"Yes, if they're open. The showers were closed last time I went because of covid"

Or he's being a dick. But I'd go down the clear communication route first before deciding that.

My DH is vague and so ratty when I don't get his point immediately!! He often leaves out important info.

So the other way around in our house!

DH: I'm heading out.
Me: ok, is it a meeting? What time will you be back do you think.
DH: No idea.
Me: Will you need dinner? I ask because it's Wed and you usually go to (sport) early so do I need to have dinner out early or will you go straight to sport?
DH: Why wouldn't I need dinner!
ME: (fuck it, I'll just do my own schedule)

The annoying thing is I'd never go anywhere without saying:
I'm heading out to X so will likely be back X time. Therefore we need to do X differently to usual.

Rather than leaving me at home wondering if I need to get the rice started at an inconveniently early time or not.

@Imcatmum

DH: I'm heading out. Me: ok, is it a meeting? What time will you be back do you think. DH: No idea. Me: Will you need dinner? I ask because it's Wed and you usually go to (sport) early so do I need to have dinner out early or will you go straight to sport? DH: Why wouldn't I need dinner! ME: (fuck it, I'll just do my own schedule)

But what time will you be back? (Genuinely might not know a time) and will you still want dinner? Are two very different questions.

He answered the question you asked.

Sound like my dad. He is getting a bit deaf, and, unless he is totally focused on the conversation, often doesn't realise that he is missing out whole chunks of it.

I feel like we speak different languages sometimes, he's sooo vague and it drives me mad! His ability to ask questions I've already answered, answer questions I ask in 'politician speak' (i.e. 10 minutes of waffle around the subject with no actual conclusion) and miss the point of a conversation completely still amaze me after 20 odd years. Communication is not his strong point and it's very fortunate that he has lots of others or I may not still be here

This is my DH.

Me: where are the keys for the shed?
DH: what shed?
Me: the one in the front
DH: what one in the front?
Me: the bike shed. Stop being annoying.
DH: that's not a bike shed. It's a bike storage.
Me: ...
H( by now not d): ...
Me: well?
H: well what?
Me:

@Octopuscrazy

This is my DH.

Me: where are the keys for the shed?
DH: what shed?
Me: the one in the front
DH: what one in the front?
Me: the bike shed. Stop being annoying.
DH: that's not a bike shed. It's a bike storage.
Me: ...
H( by now not d): ...
Me: well?
H: well what?
Me:

Do you have more than one shed?

@Octopuscrazy your husband is hilarious . I love that.

‘I’m ready when you are, DP.’

‘I’m ready now.’

‘Great!’ - I go and sit in the car with the bag and the baby.

Ten minutes later come into the house and DP is still farting about.

My dad was the same.

Ours is:

Me: Would you like tea or coffee?
DH: yes

He claims he's answering the question I asked before I finished the sentence. 'Do you want tea'. He claims he doesn't like being given more than one option. He claims it's his autism. It still annoys me though.

@Frlrlrubert

Ours is:

Me: Would you like tea or coffee?
DH: yes

He claims he's answering the question I asked before I finished the sentence. 'Do you want tea'. He claims he doesn't like being given more than one option. He claims it's his autism. It still annoys me though.

My husband is autistic and exactly the same. It drives me nuts.

I am reassured to know that it is not just my husband who is like this

Its very frustrating and is being performance managed with Paddington like stares