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Partner and School holiday childcare

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Sewingsusan · 27/07/2021 21:50

How much does your partner help with childcare in school holidays?
Have one child and so far DH has booked 2 weeks leave and that’s it. I’m taking 1-2 days leave/week to break up the holiday.
Speaking to a friend and her partner is similar.
It just feels like the holidays are my responsibility. Sick of it.

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MinesAPintOfTea · 27/07/2021 22:08

Can you try “managing” him. Ie sit down with the calendar open, get him to get his diary and ask him for what he is doing to cover the holidays. Plan holiday clubs etc in at the same time

You shouldn’t have to, but hopefully this will get you the necessary support

Snuzzle · 27/07/2021 22:08

DP and I have DD 7 and we can both only take 2 weeks holiday in the summer. We take 2 weeks each, my mum looks after her for 1 week and she goes to childcare/summer clubs for the rest of the holidays.
We split Easter and Christmas between us but both take leave in May and October half terms so the 3 of us can go on holiday together.
DP is a bit rubbish at making plans or actually doing anything with DD when it’s just the 2 of them though and I have to push him to take her places and not just hang around the house the whole time.

Mammyloveswine · 27/07/2021 22:12

Oh my DH thought he was lucky meeting me..I'm a teacher..

I then clocked in he was booking annual leave when I'm at work and our kids are in school!

No chance now!

He claims I never told him the dates... all of fucking august plus the last two weeks of July!!! Dick!

Anyway he now takes some time off in the school holidays as god forbid I should get some time off in my holidays!

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SimonJT · 27/07/2021 22:13

2 days a week over six weeks is 12 days, so surely if you both work fulltime you have only booked off two more days than your husband.

RandomMess · 27/07/2021 22:13

My DH didn't "help" he did his share of parenting...

nimbuscloud · 27/07/2021 22:18

@SimonJT
Exactly
Though the op does say she has booked 1 or 2 days per week (making it 6 to 12 days) so it’s possible that her dh is actually taking more time off ...

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Sewingsusan · 27/07/2021 22:22

Sorry I meant I’m taking 1/2 days per week in addition to 2 weeks of family holiday time.

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Homeofthe · 27/07/2021 23:12

Have you actually sat down with him and said right we need to do xyz for childcare over the holidays.

Granted it shouldn't be your responsibility but one of yous need to start a conversation about it.

Or do what I do. Text him dates that he needs to take off for childcare. Therefore he has been told and can't forget the conversation.

londonmummy1966 · 27/07/2021 23:18

He either takes his fair share or he pays out of his own money not family funds.

lollipoprainbow · 27/07/2021 23:18

I'm working three days a week instead of five and my dd's dad has her when I'm working.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 28/07/2021 00:15

Mammy, mine did the same. Booked the first week in Sept off when I'd been off for the 6 week break with 2 young primary children. I was less than impressed and gave him an earful and he took time off in their holidays after that.

But he still is a bit odd with holidays. The kids are teen/adult now, so it makes no difference these days. He doesn't like to travel and I do, so I take them away for a week's holiday twice a year on my own. He books the same weeks off work despite not coming with us. The upside is he looks after the pets and does lots of home DIY when he's off.

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