DS doesn't want to go to friend's house - smoky

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DS has a good friend. They've been to each other's houses quite a few times, however DS now says he doesn't want to go to his mate's house because it's quite smoky.

The mum smokes quite a bit. She stands and the back door.

The mate is more than welcome to come here, but the Mum is very kindly offering to have them at her's quite frequently as she is not currently working, whereas I am. We are both lone parents and have supported each other through some difficult times.
She is a good friend.

I am not sure what to say. I would feel very awkward mentioning the reason to her. I mean, she's welcome to do as she wishes in her own home.

WWYD?

How old are the boys?

DS cares about his health. Be proud of that and support him in his decision. Don't be ashamed to say that you are a non-smoking household and so your DS finds it uncomfortable visiting.

They are 12.

Suggest they go to the park and explain your son is sensitive to smoke so best to meet up outside.
I have friends who ask to meet elsewhere as we have pets in our house and they are allergic.

Good on your DS for speaking up about it.

A bit of an awkward conversation to be had - I’d go with “DS is uncomfortable coming over to yours, he’s sensitive to smoke, how about the boys meet at the park instead”.

Good for him. If he can smell it he's likely breathing it in so I wouldn't encourage going there. Why people do this around children beats me. Awful.

I'd allude to it being a medical thing and say smoke affects him, as others have suggested

Thanks. There's really only one way isn't there - to speak up.
Eugh....it sounds judgemental.

It's quite easy to suggest they meet at the park or in town so I'll try that first.