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Gift for Bride

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AndTime · 27/07/2021 09:48

I am bridesmaid at the wedding of a family member in a few months and I wanted to get the bride a nice gift and a card welcoming her to the family.

The groom has bought her a really beautiful gift, would it be weird if I bought something that ties in to that?

I am being vague in case the bride is on her, unlikely she would know its her but I don't want to spoil the surprise!

so along the lines of:

He bought a bag so I buy matching purse
He bought a watch and I bought an extra strap
He bought a necklace and I bought earrings
He bought a framed print and I bought a smaller complimentary one

Or would I be better off buying something totally different and separate?

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AndTime · 27/07/2021 12:27

Anyone? sorry - shameless bump!

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coodawoodashooda · 27/07/2021 12:36

Im not into this kind of thing so it could just be me but id definitely say something different.

Fivemoreminutes1 · 27/07/2021 12:52

I’d go for something different

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leakymcleakleak · 27/07/2021 12:53

I think something different - the groom/bride present is meant to be super personal, it would be weird to tie into that I think, sort of diluting its meaning?

MrsEko · 27/07/2021 12:54

Different.

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AndTime · 27/07/2021 12:54

Thanks, I thought it would be nice for her to have the set but also that the gift from the groom would be something special an I shouldn't encroach on it.

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Galassia · 27/07/2021 12:54

Something different as the groom may well be intending to buy the matching item at a later date.

Or for all you know she may not like what he has bought her!

WeAllHaveWings · 27/07/2021 12:59

I would always only buy for the couple, it is unusual to buy a personal gift for one. If you are buying something just for the bride I'd buy very different from what the groom has purchased.

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AndTime · 27/07/2021 14:04

I've never been a bridesmaid before, is it not usual to buy a gift for the bride? I am a close family member on the grooms side and thought it would be nice to welcome her to the family.

I have bought a wedding gift separately for the couple.

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coodawoodashooda · 27/07/2021 17:02

Its a kind thought.

LynetteScavo · 27/07/2021 17:04

It's a nice thought, but usually the bride and groom give the bridesmaids a thank you gift, and you give them a wedding present.

cookiesandcreamm · 27/07/2021 17:06

It's a lovely thought op, people are all different in what they want to do.
If it's what you want to do, do it. I'm sure the bride will be grateful and touched.
I would maybe going for something different to the groom.

MrsFin · 27/07/2021 17:10

If I was going to give a bride a "welcome to the family" present, I think I'd wait until after the wedding, and after the honeymoon.
Having said that, I wouldn't. I think it's a bit odd.

MyAnacondaMight · 27/07/2021 18:10

I’m sure you mean well, but I don’t like the implied dynamics at play in “welcoming” someone to the family. Your (I presume) brother is making his own family by marrying her, so the focus should be on celebrating their new family unit - not on your own nascent family unit.

Safe option would be a small gift to her ahead of the wedding, expressing your happiness at being involved in the wedding and in it bringing you two closer together. Any gift to the bride that is actually about your relationship to the groom risks you looking like you’re making a power play over family dynamics.

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AndTime · 27/07/2021 18:38

@MyAnacondaMight

I’m sure you mean well, but I don’t like the implied dynamics at play in “welcoming” someone to the family. Your (I presume) brother is making his own family by marrying her, so the focus should be on celebrating their new family unit - not on your own nascent family unit.

Safe option would be a small gift to her ahead of the wedding, expressing your happiness at being involved in the wedding and in it bringing you two closer together. Any gift to the bride that is actually about your relationship to the groom risks you looking like you’re making a power play over family dynamics.

Oh I hadn't even given it any thought from that angle. I absolutely think the world of her and she makes my DB so happy I am just excited to have her as a sister in law and honoured to be part of their day.

I think I will just write a nice card and give it to her on the morning whilst we are getting ready, pretty much just saying what I just said.

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BitsAndBaubles · 28/07/2021 22:05

@andtime what about a gift for them both of a personalised wedding candle to remember their special day www.cantocandle.com/product/wedding-candle/

Whybirdwhy · 29/07/2021 08:37

I would go for something different. You sound like a love and thoughtful person.

Whybirdwhy · 29/07/2021 08:38

*lovely

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