I’m looking for some insight into my friends attitude and maybe some suggestion about whether to tackle it or not.
I’ve known her since school, 20+ years. We get on like a house on fire and have supported each other through thick and thin. I love her and want her in my life. All that being said I’ve noticed she hates everyone’s partners!
I knew she hated her brother in law because of the way he treated her sister, fair enough seemed reasonable. We have a friend in commons who’s husband is arguably “not good enough for her” so again fair enough to run him down. But after I realised she doesn’t like my husband that much either I thought more carefully (too much time on my hands maybe)
It’s not just men either she hates her nephews parter and various other woman. It’s like the partner of “her” person (the person she has a relationship with) is never good enough.
It’s come to a head because someone called her out on talking shit about their husband and I was at a lost of what to say, cause how can anyone just dislike a partner (apart from them obviously actually being abusive or whatever). She has reason “after they got married they were joined at the hip - that’s controlling”, “he isn’t half as clever has her - he doesn’t let her grow”, “she saw an easy meal ticket and lets him work too hard”.
Incidentally her own husband doesn’t get the same treatment. She knows his faults but he is deemed a good match. I feel for her kids, how will they possibly marry someone “good enough”.
This probably doesn’t make sense but does anyone have any clue? I dont want to lose her but I’m having to say “what’s it to you?” an awful lot.