I think spontaneity is here. I spontaneously phoned my sister last week and said I was going to be in London, she cleared her diary, we met and fannied about all day and got a decent table for lunch.
I've just booked gig tickets.
I went with another sister for lunch and shopping last week. It felt relaxed and normal.
I went to Tatton Park flower show with friends on Friday, we had a Fortnum and Mason picnic and a very relaxed day.
You have roll with the punches.