Am I doing the right thing

[Littlelegs2]

I will try and keep it short. So my daughter is going through a DV situation. Social services are involved. At the moment her ex is in prison . Daughter is in a refuge. The refuge soon want her to leave as she's not in danger as he's in prison . But they want to do it in a controlled way so help/support Is in place.

Social services don't believe the ex will keep away the first thing he will do is hunt her down. They believe he's very dangerous. Dd comes to my house everyday with gs as they need quite a bit of support.

If her ex was to find her once he gets out. It's likely gs would be taken from dd. Of course this is the last thing we want. But my house is her base so he's likely to come here. So I have asked the council to move me to another temporary accommodation. They have agreed they will. I have done this because I want to do all I can to make sure dd and gs are safe . I don't know what type of accommodation it would be or where . Apart from that it should be in the same borough.

But I feel guilty about my other children having to move my 18 year old is quite angry about it. Which makes me feel guilty. I don't know if it will do my autistic child good or bad. I don't think my other children will care. I just keep telling myself this house was only ever temporary and we could have been told to move at any point.

I want to do the right thing but I feel no matter what I do I will upset someone

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If the violent ex knows your address then I would say you are definitely doing the right thing OP

So she’s definitely not going to go back to him?
Social services aren’t going to put your Grandson into care?

@BingBongToTheMoon

So she’s definitely not going to go back to him? Social services aren’t going to put your Grandson into care?

No shes not going back. She's allowed to keep gs as long as there's no form of contact. And she has to do courses etc for the DV

@freelions

If the violent ex knows your address then I would say you are definitely doing the right thing OP

Thank you. I think so to . I think its more the unknown thats worrying.

I think you’re doing the right thing; even if she doesn’t come to yours and moves somewhere else he will still come to yours looking for her and that’d be enough to make me want to move

Good, I remember how worried & upset you were before.

@BingBongToTheMoon

Good, I remember how worried & upset you were before.

Yes very. Still very worried. If she does contact him. I will never forgive her. . But I sincerely hope she means all she says. And she properly moves on. He got given another 20 months for breaking the non molestation/restraining order. So I guess he will do 10 months so she's got all that time to move on.

@Wjevtvha

I think you’re doing the right thing; even if she doesn’t come to yours and moves somewhere else he will still come to yours looking for her and that’d be enough to make me want to move

I agree with this

Hope you are all able to move on with your lives away from this man. I was in a DV relationship with my DCs dad, I left 6 years ago and have had no contact since. Happily married now and kids thriving. I really hope your daughter moves on from him and builds a lovely life for her and DC.

Also forgot to say, she is very lucky to have you

@Minecraftlover

Also forgot to say, she is very lucky to have you

Thank you 😊. I'm glad you and your children are doing well . I hope dd can do the same.