Husband is in denial that he has covid

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Husband has mentioned this week that X and Y are off work isolating, Z has been ill with covid etc. I don't really listen as our marriage is in tatters. He had a shower earlier ready to go out, mentioned that he thought his new aftershave was fake as it smelt of nothing. I was choking on it. Something clicked, I asked him to do an LFT. He did one, it was super positive instantly. He claimed he'd done it wrong. Repeated the test, very faint line ( I didn't watch him do the cotton bud but suspect he only did it slightly to try and make it negative) he's still saying the test was wrong and he has gone out.
He says restrictions have ended, its only a cold, he hasn't coughed, not feeling ill, hes been double jabbed etc etc. Complete denial.
We sleep in separate rooms, don't spend time together. Children are sleeping out and have been since Wednesday.
I don't know what to do.
I cant force him to follow the rules. I have nowhere to go to isolate away from him. I don't know what to do about the children. I don't want to bring them back into a house with a case when they have not previously been exposed but I can't expect anybody to have them for 10 days. I'm so mad.
I know I need to ultimately LTB and that is the long term plan but he is putting me in an awful position here. Don't jump on me, I can't think straight. I don't know what to do. He's almost convincing me that he's right and we ignore it. Said none of it would apply usually and I'm being dramatic.

The best of it is, his friends he is with tonight are all tinfoil hat 5g chem trail wackos. I couldn't care less if they got it.
The lady on the next table who works in a care home, man having his first pint in forever with a child at home with leukaemia, the couple going on holiday next week needing a negative test etc etc they are the ones I feel for.

Of all the abuse I have took from him over the years, this has hit me more

If the girls stay with her she can at least have them there.

It presents so differently for people especially younger or vaccinated people I cannot believe he is ignoring the test.

We are isolating DC had mild cold symptoms tiredness , nit feeling great blocked nose. Then had sensitive skin and as We were due to see an elderly aunt with cancers rhiught let’s do LFT just in case as you describe it was positive immediately and a PCR test confirmed it. If it’s any consolation we are negative despite close contact although both double jabbed

I just can't bring myself to tell anybody. I feel like I'm discussing his private medical situation. DDs could have it I suppose although the fact people at his work have had it tells me he's got it from there. It is telling that nobody else has symptoms - we can't stand to be near the cunt 😆

Keep all the windows open - not hard to do at the moment - sanitise wherever he's been. I don't suppose he will. Keep your distance. Not much more you can do.

What a prize!

Scan and upload his positive LFT result so he gets pinged?

What is pinged? The tests, I assume, are in the bin.

If you fish the tests out of the bin, they have a QR code on that you can scan to report the results.

However, you’d need his NHS login (if he has one) to report it in his name.

You also need to be wary of him claiming to have done a PCR but not swabbing properly like it seems he did with the second LFT.

To be honest, your marriage is over anyway. I’d be very tempted to upload a photo of his test to social media and to his daughter, so at least people he knows can choose to stay away, even if he isn’t giving that courtesy to strangers.

He needs to not go to the wedding, whatever the repercussions, and as it stands it sounds like he will be.

I’m sorry you’re in this position and with this crappy excuse for a human.

Why haven't you divorced him?

@Fiddliestofsticks

Why haven't you divorced him?

@Fiddliestofsticks that’s irrelevant.

Would 119 give any advice on this? (I honestly have no idea, just a thought)

Whether he swabbed properly or not, a false negative is more likely in this scenario.

False positives are almost impossible, let alone two!

I can't comprehend that people like this man exist.

If you want to sell it as in his interests point out that if he has it he is young to pass it to the people he is in contact with. Then when they get symptoms and report them he will be forced to self isolate as a close contact via Track and Trace, and that could happen repeatedly as the chain of infections work through. So by testing and isolating now he is saving all that future hassle.

Also not infecting his DD and all her loved ones on her wedding day should be pretty motivating. Covid for the bride and all her friends and family is a pretty shit gift.

*going not young

Are you scared of him, op? You mentioned abuse.

Have you taken an LFT?

Current thinking is more about airborne transmission than surface, so I wouldn’t worry about deep cleaning your house. Focus on the ventilation.

What a total knob.

Test yourself and your children then OP, tell him you will be reporting him, do it, dettol or bleach all shared areas and door handles etc and airate the house the best you can, then isolate and test like everyone else with any decency is doing. He is beyond disgusting. To contemplate attending someone elses wedding knowing this is morally bankrupt, you have no idea who may be there who is vulnerable or who any of you may make seriously unwell. Vaccination is not a cure-all.

Bloody covid is hardly his 'private medical info' is it it's not sensitive or personal, there is a pandemic. Saying you don't care if his 'tin foil' mates get isn't much better. It isn't for you to judge who 'deserves' it or not, if they get it they will pass it on.

As someone in the shielding category who is reluctant to go out because of people like this his is very frustrating and depressing to read.

You need to appraise the wedding party of this, make no sense to feel bad you may no attend but not give them time to replan or crucially, not have people their they know have covid,risking their loves ones health.

Shut him out of the house and report him to the police.
Sorry probably not very helpful and a bit nuclear but honestly I'm so fed up with men who are selfish and deniers of this and that.
I hope you can do something OP. You sound really upset.

I'd have been inclined to clean the house and lock him out to stay with one of his conspiracy theorist mates, and ask the sDD to keep the dc in the hope they stay negative and can be at the wedding.

Have you told SDD yet?

I would tell DSD, she won’t want him at the wedding.

I would change the locks today and not let him
Back in

I have told DSD she is keeping the younger girls there and her mum (DH ex lol) is going to have them over the wedding weekend.

Thankfully he is very ill with it, he can't get out of bed so that's put a stop to his gallop

Good i hope he fucking suffers