Anti vaxxer DB

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Name changed for this post.

DB lives 2 hours away with his clinically vulnerable DW(SIL) and two young daughters (DN1 & DN2).

DN2 is vulnerable.

He regularly visits elderly DM, DF and his elderly MIL who is also vulnerable.

In a nutshell, DB says the vaccines are experimental and will not be taking his. He says the pandemic is a scam.

This makes me sad. He has given no thought to the safety of his family, or if he has, doesn’t care. He is also putting himself at risk.

He and his family visit us and stay over a few times a year but his refusal to be jabbed is going to cause problems - DH is also vulnerable and does not want DB to come here without being jabbed.

DB has texted that he is "at peace with his decision not to take an experimental vaccine".

I am sad and feel he is being selfish. He's entitled to his opinion but surely safety and his family should come first.

Expecting an MN flaming but just wanted to vent.

How incredibly selfish of him. For some people, the social pressure of not being included in family events may matter more than the health of their family members - so he may end up getting vaccinated, even if the reason leaves a bad taste.

This pandemic has been illustrative of those we surround ourselves with: having more of this information is always good, but it doesn’t mean it’s not hard to process emotionally.

Very sad stories how people & families have fallen out over covid vacc status. My dad is despairing because one of my cousins has gone full anti-vax. I hate listening to the wailing about it, my dad used to be a much more tolerant person. The situation encourages people to lie to each other.

Thank you everyone for your replies. It's a very sad and frustrating situation

I am fully vaxxed but hate all this judgement and othering of those who are reluctant to be vaccinated. If the vaccine works then you are all safe. If it doesn't, then he's right.

What vaccine are you talking about? As long as relatives have been vaccinated it should be ok that db hasn’t been vaccinated himself

Having the vaccine doesn't stop you catching the virus. It is every person choice whether to vaccinate or not and thigh I am vaccinated I would defend anyone's right to autonomy over their own body because the alternative doesn't bear thinking about.
A good friend of mine is currently recovering from covid he is double vaccinated. He is also overweight and diabetic, maybe without the vaccine he could have ended up in hospital, but he would still have caught it either way. The vaccine is for your own protection of you wish it. And by lowering the numbers if the seriously unwell it is helping reduce NHS demands.
I think in your position I would hold my thoughts on his stance on my mind without making it a family political issue, unless I was asked directly. I would still want to see my dB etc.