Is this too much alcohol?

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Is a bottle of gin in 4 days a lot for one person?

I rarely drink and if I do it’s maybe tow or three drinks a night once or twice a week. I’ve noticed a new man seems to easily drink a bottle of gin a week, or even in a matter of days.

I did ask on Sunday ‘oh is this a new one again?!’

He just looked a bit sheepish, didn’t say much and sort of said no but not explicitly. He doesn’t tend to lie much to me (that I know of!). I dropped the topic then.

Didn’t know doctors drank a lot. I thought they would be least likely to! I don’t think he’s doing it secretly but maybe he drinks more when I’m not around. I have definitely noticed he can be very affectionate in texts some nights, really different to a day later. I’ve often said jokingly ‘have you been drinking’ ... obviously isn’t so much of a joke as I thought :(

How long have you been together?

Really you need to think hard now about if you want to be with a heavy drinker. There’s no point getting more involved if you don’t.

Drs are known for being a profession with high level of alcoholism. Guess it’s stress, long hours and having a drink to “relax”.

I think it sounds like a lot. It might be ‘normal’ in the sense that probably a lot of other people drink those kinds of volumes and manage to get along in life. However I personally don’t think it is a healthy amount.

Doctors are the worst!

It wouldn't bother me unless he's behaving off when he's been drinking

My limit for a partner drinking is whether it impacts their behaviour. Of course , the more hardened the drinker the more they can drink without showing any signs.

If their personality changes then I wouldn't care how much they are drinking, I'd not want to get with them.

Doctor going to bottle bank near mum had 2 carrier bags a week 😢

If you have to ask the question the answer is probably yes but your definition of rarely drinking and mine are also very different. Two or three drinks once or twice a week is not rarely drinking.

Having grown up in a family of alcoholics, from functioning to violent and abusive, I have a very low tolerance for drunk people and heavy drinkers. So for me, it would be way too much - i wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who drinks daily / most days at home. I can’t stand the smell of alcohol, especially on a person’s breath - it’s very triggering for me. So this relationship wouldn’t work for me at all. Others may not care.

I would say that if you don’t really drink and he drinks a lot frequently, that may cause you an issue.

I think if a bottle of gin lasting 4 days is bad!

Only exception would be over a holiday once per year (I'm thinking Xmas here). But just a normal week- no not normal at all.

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Same here on the rare occasions I have drank any vodka or Bacardi.

maybe you need to report him to his professional body or to his employers.
you can do it anonymously.
it is a highly responsible and significant role to be do while possibly impaired.
innocent people's lives including children's may be at risk.
and you know about it.
think about it.
if it was you child or loved one dependent on such a person's judgement.

Alcohol dependence ruins lives.

He might be managing okay now, but it won’t stay that way. I’d get out before you get too far in with him.

(Source: dead alcoholic ex-husband)

@Whingey,did they all have white coats and stethascopes

It's 7 units a day. The binge drink threshold is 6 units so that's 4 days of binging. It really depends if that's a regular pattern or not.